Dating Tips Online: How to Approach a Woman and get phone number part 3

Dating Tips Online: How to Approach a Woman and get phone number

How to Ask a Girl for a Date

It's the most intimidating question a guy can ask a woman, and one that I get asked about regularly. It feels like such a risky proposition, putting yourself out there for a woman's approval (or rejection.)

This has to be one of the questions I hear most frequently from guys.

Why?

It's the most intimidating question a guy can ask a woman, and one that I get asked about regularly. It feels like such a risky proposition, putting yourself out there for a woman's approval (or rejection.)

The answer to the riddle is this: STOP asking women out!

First of all, you're starting a program in a woman's head that says: "He's romantically interested in me. That means dates, and awkward kisses, and possibly sex, and then a breakup like the last one. I better not."

Second, by asking her out, you make a woman need to figure out if she's attracted to you the moment you ask the question. She is presented with an opportunity which requires her to figure out her interest level in YOU.

You see, a woman doesn't want to lead a man on, but she also rarely knows right away if there's romantic interest. So she'll say yes just to test you out. It's like her first drive of a new car. She doesn't want to be obligated to buy right off the bat. If you push her for an answer right away (which is how asking her out comes across to her) she'll say No, even if she isn't sure yet.

Most women are NOT attracted to you immediately unless it's by your looks alone. If you rely on pure sex appeal to win you the one you want, you'll be relying on "luck." There's a much better way. Continue...Reading



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Dating Tips Online: How to Approach a Woman and get phone number II

Dating Tips Online: How to Approach a Woman and get her phone number successfully

How to approach women is a question I often encounter.

In order to approach women, you will have to your life and head together. You will have to be totally confident and comfortable with your current life-style.

To approach beautiful women there are no perfect pick-up lines. I don’t like the connation associated with pick-up lines. How can you want to pick-up a woman you have not spoken to? She might be beautiful and have a great body, but trust me; if she is not beautiful on the inside you will be sick of her in five minutes.

To approach women the correct mindset to have is, “I wonder if she is my type?” So instead of having an anxiety-induced pick-up mindset, you are simply qualifying this woman as a person. Is she someone worth getting to know? Is she funny? Is she a great conversationalist? This is the frame of mind you should adopt when meeting women. You should be the choosy in your interactions with women. Don’t settle for a woman who does not add value to your current life.

Will Women Approach Me?

If you use a pick-up when a women approaches, you probably just shot yourself in the leg. You are much better off making a situational comment. If you have a sense of humor, use your imagination and add some comedy to the situation.

I am here to tell you that it really does not matter what you say when you approach women. Communication experts tell us most of communication, up to 93% is non-verbal. So in human communication, only 7% of communication is the words you use. The other 93% of communication is made up of body language, gestures and vocal tone.

Always make eye contact during your initial contact. You must give these women 100% of your attention. So learn to be an active listener. Use what she says to open up new threads of conversation.

Here are some conversation starters to help you approach women:

Book store – If she is looking at book. You best buy my book it is fabulous.

Coffee shop – You know where I can get some cotton candy around here?

Super Market – Do you know how to pick the perfect kumquat?

Bar/Lounge – I like this place have you been here before? What other places you enjoy going to?

Most of these openers are silly. I would deliver them with a smirk.

You should always be ready to strike up a conversation with women. You daily errands and work life bring you in contact with many people. If you have to, come up with some default conversation starters you can use in any situation.

I would recommend you check out some of Leil Lowndes books. She will help you gain the confidence you need, to approach beautiful women everywhere. She is an excellent author and speaker on starting conversations, romantic encounters, and she gives tips on how to approach women. This is a great book which ties into what we were speaking about, How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships.

I want to drive home the fact it does not matter what you say, but how you say it. Attitude is everything! Good luck in your quest to approach women.

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Dating Tips Online: How to Approach a Woman and get her phone number successfully

Dating Tips Online: How to Approach a Woman and get her phone number successfully

QUESTION:

At lunch yesterday I saw this really great looking classy girl. She was obviously having lunch with some co-workers, as was I. We made eye contact a few times and exchanged smiles. How does one go about approaching her? If she "separated from the pack" I could have maybe done something. Is this a lost cause for future encounters of this type?

CARLOS ANSWERS:

Ah, the old "get her away from the pack" question. This is probably one of the most common dilemmas for guys, and it's very discouraging because of the supposed risk of embarrassment.

No, it is never a lost cause. Remember, every situation can be handled if you stop and plan in advance. We're human beings and problem solvers.

In the situation you were found yourself, this gal gave you some definite I.O.I.s (Indications Of Interest). When you make eye contact and get a smile, you should move in immediately.

You're probably wondering, "But don't I need to wait until I get a convenient break from the herd?"

* The "convenient" break will probably never happen. Don't wait for circumstances; make them.

* If you wait, you'll end up lowering her interest, because you won't look confident as you hang around skulking and waiting for your ideal window of opportunity. The Serengeti is full of tigers that will pounce on their prey if you won't. The longer you wait, the more likely you'll starve in the singles' jungle. (And the faster she thinks: "Wimp.")

* If you wait, your inner LoserBoy will start discouraging you. Loserboy is that voice in your head that undermines your success so you never have to risk losing - or winning. The two of you can sit at home watching re-runs of "The X-files" and drinking old beer. He'll turn you into a chicken by whispering disempowering messages to you, like "Nah, she's probably already taken," or "She just wants to eat her lunch, not meet a possibly interesting guy." Don't give Loserboy the chance to start talking.

So, how do you introduce yourself without feeling like an intrusive dork?

If the group she's in has more than one female in it, your best option is always to use a wingman (a friend who can help break the ice for you.) Coach one of your friends in advance and have them ready to fly intercept for you.

Here's a low-risk option: Have the waiter bring over a note saying something like: "Hey, I know you're with friends, but if you'd like to make another friend, step away for a second. (Don't make me come over and start singing to you.)"

Unless she's terminally shy, she will more than likely step away. No need to get clever with your introduction when she comes over. Here's one that works for me: "I don't normally interrupt people during lunch, but I just had to give you the pleasure of meeting me." (Give her a playful smile.) "What's your name?"

Wait for her to ask you for your name, as this is a key indicator as to whether she's interested in you.

Remember that a teasing and cocky attitude is necessary because it helps communicate your value as an Alpha Man. You need to communicate your confidence and independent posture to her so that she understands you're a real man, not a wimp that will bore her after the first date. Women want men with a sexual charge about them, and are turned off by "nice guys" who can't muster the courage to go after what they want.

End the tease with a smile to show her you're just kidding around. If she gets indignant or weird, you excuse yourself and move on, because you've just discovered that she's probably insecure and bitchy. But more often than not, you'll now find yourself in a conversation with a hot woman. Congratulations!

End it quickly with the "Well, I have to get back to my friends. It was nice talking to you." Then you hand her a pen and tell her to write down her email or phone number. Don't ask her - tell her, and she'll give it to you.

Remember, guys: If she's interested, she doesn't care how you introduce yourself, just as long as you do.

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