Dating for Dummies opener: How to pick up tips and approaching advice #011

Openers for Puas: "Dating for Dummies" opener. How to pick up tips and dating advice #013

Opening using "Dating for Dummies" Opener.

What is "Opener"?

It's a form of pick up line, but not as cheesy and most of them are proven to be effective or field proved. It is basically a conversation starter, an excuse to talk to a person, and the beginning of the getting to know each other process.

DATING FOR DUMMIES (Herbal) Go find the Dating for Dummies book. It's bright yellow and black. I forget the exact page (78 maybe?), but find the page that has "NEVER USE THESE LINES" on it, and keep the book open to that page.

Walk up to a girl BLATANTLY and hold the book up in front of your face so she can easily read the title. She might start laughing, depending on how you do it.

Then slowly lower the book and read the lines. "So... come here often" in a super player voice. She will crack up and answer you. Break your "smooth" look on your face and quickly bring the book back up and read the next line "What's your sign?". She will laugh again and probably answer.

Then I usually say "Wow... this works great. Your turn". It puts her on the spot. You can flip to random pages and do tons of role-play... the breaking up stuff is great.

Eventually just stack with a relationship related opener, and you're in. I've done this a ton of times and it never fails to open.

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PUA Openers: "Blind Date" opener. How to pick up tips and dating advice #012

Openers for Puas: "Blind Date" opener. How to pick up tips and dating advice #012

Opening using "Blind Date" Opener.

What is "Opener"?

It's a form of pick up line, but not as cheesy and most of them are proven to be effective or field proved. It is basically a conversation starter, an excuse to talk to a person, and the beginning of the getting to know each other process.


BLIND DATE (unknown) Walk up to a girl or a group of girls. (no guys in the group preferred you will know what I mean) Say loud and clear, "hey, I need your opinion on something." "I am going on a blind date with some girl and I am very nervous about it. Is there any tips you can give me so I don't look like an idiot. I don't really know how to dress to impress or act the right way" (Act as AFC as you can to disarm the bitch shield)

NOW some girl would just tell you "be yourself"… you should reply with C&F line or expression. What I did was I made a very serious face and said "like this?" which cracked them up. I then put up the serious face again and said, "I need to know", and then change to a happy face and said "come on, tell me the secret to girls' hearts, and how do I dress to impress. If you were going on a blind date, what would you like the guy to look like".

At this point at least one girl would volunteer to give you a few tips, and then more will follow. You can then ask all the questions you want to those girls until they go dry (EV). Or you can run some patterns and move in to your routines.

Depends on how well you spin it, you might be able to get one of the girls out shopping with you or more. The danger of this opener is, they might give you advices to be AFC, i.e. buy her flowers...blah blah blah. It is your natural ability as an ASFer to filter out the useful info from the AFC ones.

Successful PUA Openers can only be effective when and if you have got the girl’s attention already. She needs to be looking at you, say “hey” or “excuse me” before you deliver the line. If you need to repeat it because she didn’t hear, or wasn’t listening, the result will never be as powerful.

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How to Get a hot girl if you are not an attractive man. Dating out of your league, is it possible?

How to Get a hot girl if you are not an attractive man. Dating out of your league, possibility.

Yes, indeed. It's possible.
Most attractive women ideal man is less attractive than she is. Thought, in this article it's emphasis...a husband Architype (Provider) so read and think.
If you just want to have lots of dating and sexual experience...USE this KNOWLEDGE to your advantage. Focus on getting better...then you will be able to get whoever you want to date. Do not fall into PROVIDER traps. Have lots of fun before you settle. (Voodoo)

Why beautiful women choose to be with less attractive men?
Jeanna Bryner
LiveScience Staff Writer

Women seeking a lifelong mate might do well to choose the guy a notch below them in the looks category. New research reveals couples in which the wife is better looking than her husband are more positive and supportive than other match-ups.

The reason, researchers suspect, is that men place great value on beauty, whereas women are more interested in having a supportive husband.

Researchers admit that looks are subjective, but studies show there are some universal standards, including large eyes, “baby face” features, symmetric faces, so-called average faces, and specific waist-hip ratios in men versus women.

Past research has shown that individuals with comparable stunning looks are attracted to each other and once they hook up they report greater relationship satisfaction. These studies, however, are mainly based on new couples, showing that absolute beauty is important in the earliest stages of couple-hood, said lead researcher James McNulty of the University of Tennessee. But the role of physical attractiveness in well-established partnerships, such as marriage, is somewhat of a mystery.

The new study, published in the February issue of the Journal of Family Psychology, reveals looks continue to matter beyond that initial attraction, though in a different way.

Supportive spouses

McNulty’s team assessed 82 couples who had married within the previous six months and had been together for nearly three years prior to tying the knot. Participants were on average in their early to mid-20s.

Researchers videotaped as each spouse discussed with their partner a personal problem for 10 minutes. The tapes were analyzed for whether partners were supportive of spouses’ issues, which included goals to eat healthier, to land a new job and to exercise more often.

“A negative husband would’ve said, ‘This is your problem, you deal with it,’” McNulty said, “versus ‘Hey, I’m here for you; what do you want me to do?; how can I help you?’”

A group of trained “coders” rated the facial attractiveness of each spouse on a scale from 1 to 10, with the perfect 10 representing the ultimate babe. About a third of the couples had a more attractive wife, a third a more attractive husband and the remaining partners showed matching looks.

Trophy wives

Overall, wives and husbands behaved more positively when the woman was better looking.

The finding “seems very reasonable,” said Dan Ariely, a professor of behavioral economics at MIT’s Program in Media Arts and Sciences and Sloan School of Management. “Men are very sensitive to women’s attractiveness. Women seem to be sensitive to men’s height and salary,” said Ariely, who was not involved in the recent study.

In couples with more attractive husbands, both partners were less supportive of one another. McNulty suggests wives mirror, in some ways, the level of support they get from husbands.

“The husband who’s less physically attractive than his wife is getting something more than maybe he can expect to get,” McNulty told LiveScience. “He’s getting something better than he’s providing at that level. So he’s going to work hard to maintain that relationship.”

Men who are more attractive than their partners would theoretically have access to partners who are more attractive than their current spouses, McNulty said. The “grass could be greener” mentality could make these men less satisfied and less committed to maintain the marriage.

Physical attractiveness of husbands is not as important to women, the researchers suggest. Rather, wives are looking for supportive husbands, they say.

So it seems the mismatch in looks is actually a perfect match. “Equitable is unlikely to mean the same on every dimension,” Ariely said during a telephone interview. “It just means that overall two people make sense together.”

Gambler.

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Dating Tips: Quick Guild Get a Woman Attracted to You in five steps

Dating Tips: Quick Guild Get a Woman Attracted to You in five steps

5 Fastest Ways to Get a Woman Attracted to You by Derek Vitalio

I wanna shine on in the hearts of menThe best way to a woman’s heart isn’t her stomach, nor her mother -it’s her confusion. You want a woman to wonder just a little bit where she stands with you, and to create a dynamic where she ends up coming some of the distance to feel YOU out. The best way to do this? Pushing and Pulling.

Inside the hearts of men…

There’s a Twilight Zone about a gambler who dies, and winds up in an ethereal casino.

He starts playing, and he’s winning every time, and he’s sayin’ ‘Alright! I made it to heaven!’

Then time keeps on passing, and he keeps winning and winning and never losing… until he realizes ‘Shit, I’m actually in hell.’

What exactly does that have to do with attracting women? Quite a lot, actually.

Simply put, we humans like getting what we want… but not if it’s TOO easy. If something just falls into our lap without a fight or without effort, it suddenly loses some worth. Maybe we start to reassess our first judgment, we question if it’s really worth having.

After all, if it’s this easy, then everyone would be doing it. IF it’s worth it.

Not to mention, the journey helps CREATE the worth - the more you fight for it, the more you’ll savor it.

And I’m telling you this because…?

Don’t give it up too easily

Creating worth is ALL about attracting women.

If this were the 50s and I was a mom speaking to a daughter, I’d probably tell you to play hard-to-get.

But it’s the 21st century, I’m pretty sure you’re not my daughter and I KNOW I’m not your mom, so we need something more sophisticated. And as a man, we need to be more proactive, less passive about our chances.

We need to push. And pull. Make the woman feel like a yo-yo. It’ll drive her crazy - in all the right ways, all ways which are not only PART of a successful mating dance, they’re the MOST important steps.

Let me explain a bit.

Pushing and Pulling

What’s a pull? When you say something which is hopefully a bit cocky, playful, and funny all at the same time. Like she laughs at one of your jokes, you pause, give her a half-smile and say ‘You love me.’ or ‘I want a small wedding, ok?’ or ‘That was easy - all we need now is a little privacy and a soft surface. Or do you like it hard?’

Get it? Make assumptions about how attractive you are, how much she wants to jump your bones, and use all that to PULL her towards you. Let her know how lucky she is to have found you.

RF246453And at the same time, push. Let her know it’ll never work out. Say she tells you she only dates rich men, and she asks if you’re rich. ‘Nope. In fact, you’re paying for the next six rounds. That guy over there has an expensive shirt on, maybe you should hook up with him.’

Or if she says she likes bad boys, ‘Oh, my momma wouldn’t approve. I guess the wedding’s off - if that’s what momma says, of course.’

Basically, WHATEVER she says she looks for in a man, go ahead and play the OPPOSITE.

In words only we’re talking about. This is called flirting.

Every time you PULL with a compliment, you’ve got to PUSH with a tease. The vaguer and more possibly true, the better. If you’ve given a SINCERE compliment (as they all should be anyway), you’ve REALLY got to work on PUSHING HARD with something negative.

Something like ‘I’m not surprised YOU’D say that.’

‘Why?’

‘I’m not telling.’

‘Why?’

‘I don’t know you well enough - and I don’t want to hurt your feelings.’

‘WHAT?’

‘See, you’re doing it again.’

Don’t be nasty, be fun - and mysterious

Remember, you want to keep everything PLAYFUL. That’s the key to making everything work.

She shouldn’t have any idea if you’re serious - with both the pushes and the pulls. You’ve got to keep her guessing the whole time.

This is EXACTLY where you want her mind to be - it both causes her to devote a LOT more mental energy to you than she would otherwise, AND it makes you more interesting. Complex. And fun.

That very complexity, interest, and fun GREATLY increases your worth.

Many of the women who were MOST into me were those who LEAST knew where they stood. As you practice this, you’ll find out it’s a VERY powerful tool.

Don’t be a jerk

More Odessa on the rocks...One of the other things it sometimes does is create INSECURITY in the woman. Now, a little insecurity can be a good thing - it adds spice, keeps everything from becoming boring and monotonous, likewith our gambling friend.

But you don’t want to be cruel, and TOO MUCH insecurity can damage both the lady and your relationship with her. Don’t take this too far. If she seems to be getting genuinely upset, it’s time to pull a little bit - ‘Hey, don’t worry so much, look who I’ve decided to spend my valuable time with.’

But in general, men do WAY too much pulling, making it clear how awesome they find a woman and how much they want to be with her. Chances are very good your pulling skills (Vitalio usage) are overdeveloped.

Work in the weak link - pushing

So instead, my assignment to you is to work on your PUSHING skills. Think of different ways to say to her ‘Hey, I know the sun doesn’t shine out your ass. And I don’t need you - I can pull (British usage) a woman any time I like. And I’m not convinced we’re right for each other.’

Hint: the less you use words, the better this will work. Body language - like not facing her, or flirting with other women - is
often MUCH more powerful.

So today (or tomorrow, but don’t wait any longer) go find a woman you’re VERY attracted to. And figure out a way to keep her engaged while at the same time PUSHING HARD.

You’ll get the balance between push and pull as time passes, but for the moment, practice those playful pushing maneuvers. Remember to keep it FUN - once it’s not, you’re just a bastard. Which can work - it’s one of the reasons bastards get more than their fairshare of chicks - but not something I’d recommend on a human level.

Push-Pull in relationships (fledgling or otherwise)

One other thing - as you get to know a woman better and you enter the rapport stage, you shouldn’t lose the push-pull dynamic, but it should morph a bit. Into something more like reward and punishment - so you REMAIN an interesting challenge, but you use it to teachher what kind of behavior is acceptable for you.

For instance, if she’s been great, you can take her to eat her favorite food. If she’s acting moody and bitchy, you can cut your time together short - ‘I don’t appreciate this kind of behavior, and I don’t deserve it. I’ll call you later when it’s out of your system.’

Reward and punishment is a little trickier, and we’ll deal with it again at a later time. For now, focus on learning to PUSH just as well as you’ve learned to PULL.

And if you want to know more about this dynamic and how it affects other aspects of dating - up to and especially including SEX - you should check out my course Get The Girlfriend.

It’s full of perfect examples of BOTH behaviors being used in the right way. Nothing can teach you better than trial and error in your own situations - but the next best thing is seeing how OTHERS use tactics successfully.


“BB lifestyle really helped me to master my inner game, what it teaches is a kinda attitude and it incrementally accelerates gradually, I mean BB lifestyle provides all the crucial elements in attitude creation you need to know. With your existing routines/or continously update your rountine pack and strategies. You will truely master the GAME. So if any one of you out there would like to be a natural, you MUST come to BB lifestyle's workshop.”

Dating Advice for dummies. Where, how to meet beautiful women?

Dating Advice for dummies. Where to meet beautiful women?

There are plenty of places to meet girls - you don't need to restrict yourself to bars and clubs. In fact, you should not restrict yourself in the number of places you meet girls. Put yourself in a hot babe's shoes - when she goes out to a bar she is expecting to be hit on by guys. It always happens. She doesn't expect to be picked up when she goes out shopping in the afternoon. As a result, she's less defensive and more open to the possibility of having a conversation with you. There are other reasons why it is easier to meet girls in the daytime.

* The girls are usually on their own (they probably won't be alone in the night);
* You'll get the real person - most people have a persona that they adopt in a club;
* Because you're both sober and being yourselves, numbers you get in the day-time are a lot more solid;
* Girls are romantic. Her friends will ask where you met. "I met him while I had a coffee in Starbucks" is a lot more romantic than "I met him in the club";
* You'll meet girls that don't ever go to clubs - a different type of girl. (And you'll meet clubby girls too!)


Day-time pickup is a very different process from meeting girls at night. Here's how you do it:


1. Start the conversation without putting too much pressure on her


This is crucial, and a good way of doing it is to open with something funny. What you shouldn't do is begin with a personal question, or display too much interest, or otherwise put her under pressure. You need to be very natural and very relaxed. Cheesy chat up lines or canned routines that work at night are going to bomb. I'd recommend something situational. If she is in Sainsbury's looking at soup, talk about soup. If she is waiting around in the cold, talk about waiting around in the cold. Empathise with her. I'll give you a few example openings you can use:


Bookshop: "Do you know where the X section is?" Depending on the answer: "Oh, you are so hired/fired as my librarian."


Supermarket: "I'm useless with wine and I've got someone coming for dinner who knows their stuff - can you recommend me a wine to go with...."

Get the idea?


2. Keep on talking until she opens up


OK - you've said something to her and the natural tendency now will be to ask a bunch of questions. Don't do that quite yet - wait until she is comfortable talking to you. Instead, you should do most of the talking, following up your opening line with something that naturally follows from it. You could notice things about her and comment on them. Make assumptions about what she's doing. After a while, you'll reach a point where her body language opens up to you and she starts to contribute more to the conversation because she's become used to the (admittedly strange) situation.


3. Find connections


It's going well, so move on. Find things that you share in common - interests, likes and hobbies. You can certainly get away with more personal questions once she's committed to the interaction. Now your focus should be on looking for a good opportunity, and something you could do together.


4. Get the number


Once you have found a common interest you should just suggest to her that you could do that together. If you can't, use the tried-and-tested "we should hang out sometime." If she agrees to either, hand her your phone and have her put her number into the memory. If you want to be certain that you have the right number, give her a call under the pretext of giving her your number.



Limiting yourself to night-game will limit the number of great women that you could be meeting. If you can improve your daygame you'll be able to have a date every day of the week without ever setting foot in crowded bars and clubs! Result! We teach daygame on our DVD with live pickups caught on film and broken down by experts. It's definitely a nervy thing to do, but, once you've summoned up the guts to get down to it, you'll have a great time. The moment where you realise that the theory actually works is priceless. It's like discovering the Force... And if approaching is something you have trouble with, you might want to have a look at our exclusive Approaching Confidence CD - for just over £20 you'll get our brand new and state-of-the-art product designed specifically to increase your confidence on approaching hot girls. It uses advanced hypnotic communication techniques to help you realise your untapped potential.

Until next time,

Gambler.


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-when to kiss a women, her.
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-Dating Advice Sexual escalation and vibe.

How to avoid approach anxiety and reframe the self to get unstopable game result.

How to avoid approach anxiety and reframe the self to get unstopable game result.

We all get it. Even the best PUAs get it. I get it, even today (although I've learnt to love it). That feeling of nervousness when you set yourself up for an approach. The anticipation of being blown out. It can't be avoided - it's primal. But it can be managed.


1. Frame It Differently

Don't see the approach as the most important thing in the world. It isn't. If you frame the approach in that fashion you are going to load yourself with pressure and, chances are, the pressure will get to you and affect your performance. You should frame it like this: you are a fun and social guy, the kind of guy who has no problem going to people to talk to them and have a good time. If you happen to end up in a conversation with a hot babe that's great. And if you have a conversation with that girl the close will happen naturally.


2. Take Baby Steps

You need to start small and build up. If you make an approach in the early days and all you can think about is the close, you'll be more heavily invested in the conversation and there will be more ways to fall short of your goal. Break things down into smaller chunks. When you start out, make it your goal to open as much as possible. Don't over-analyse things - keep it simple, say hello or ask a simple question and then leave. Once you are comfortable with opening, concentrate on progressing to longer conversations. Eventually, you will be so comfortable in pick-up situations that closes will happen easily and approach anxiety will be more manageable.


3. Reduce The Pressure

If it was as easy as going up to a girl and telling her that you want her, and nothing is going to get in the way of you getting her, I would have wasted the last five years of my life nailing the nuances of interpersonal interactions and would be out of a job to boot. It would be cool if it worked but most of the time it doesn't. And it will load you with anxiety because there is simply too much pressure. Sneaking in under the radar is easier and much less pressured. Find simple reasons to get talking to your target. Opinion openers are great for this.


4. Don't Be Too Fussy

Being picky isn't a bad thing, but you can be too selective. If you only ever approach SHBs (Super Hot Babes), it'll take years to get over your approach anxiety simply because there aren't many about and the ones that you do speak to will be difficult challenges so early in your career. So aim a little lower, at least to start with. Aim to open 20 sets a night to open. You don't need to close them, only open! You'll conquer your AA and then you can raise your standards to the right level when you're ready to rock.



One of the best courses we offer is our Approach course. It lasts six hours and is amazing value. In that time, we will teach you the skills you need to approach confidently for the rest of your life. Even if I do say so myself, it will probably be the best investment you've ever made. Drop me a line if you'd like to discuss what we get up to on the course or if you have any questions from today's mail.


Remember, if approaching is something you have trouble with, check out our exclusive Approaching Confidence CD. It's our brand new and state-of-the-art product designed specifically to increase your confidence on approaching hot girls. It uses advanced hypnotic communication techniques to help you realise your untapped potential.

Until next time,

Gambler.

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Dealing with break up. How to Get your Ex-Girlfriend back. Dating tips for men

How to Get your Ex-Girlfriend back!
by Gypsy

I couldn't make her understand. Tears were in her eyes and a
wall in her mind blocked my logic. She didn't want me here
pleading in her living room anymore. She loved me, but she
wanted me gone. The more I stayed the more I hurt. Yet the
pain was all that I had left of our relationship. And if I was

here then I wasn't alone yet. It delayed me facing the
emptiness, along with the sleepless nights, the lack of
appetite, the piles of laundry, the stale air of my house
from being shut in for days and then weeks.

We had broken up before, several times to be honest. But,
this time carried with it a taste of finality, like acid in
the back of our throats. I hated the thought of now becoming
just me, and no longer a guy with a girlfriend. How would I
do it? How would she...well, she had that other guy, so I
guess that made things easier for her. I wouldn't be so
lucky. I would become single. I would have to call the
buddies that I neglected all too often to spend frivolous
time with her. We would have to go out into the unwelcoming
weekend nights, into the jungles of bars and clubs of
downtown Phoenix, Tempe, and Scottsdale. We'd get drunk and
roll the dice, and always miss more than we ever hit.

I wanted to be done looking. Damn it! I didn't want to go
back out there. I didn't want to take the lessons I learned
with her and try to apply them to a different person at a
different time. If she would just listen, I'd look past her
cheating, I had once already. But she couldn't hear past
that wall she raised upon which the dreams of our future
became tiny insignificant bug splats.

That night ended and the lines of what I should have said
rolled through my head like an endless scrolling LED sign. I
talked to everyone I could. I found counsel with friends and
tried to stay busy. Still she haunted me through life. I
found her hair when I washed my pillow cases. I had to say
her name when I canceled our dance lessons. This song or
that song was the one she'd burned to a CD for me. Her
MySpace said "Single" now. The necklace she gave me burned
heart-shaped scab into my chest. The hole she once filled
was all I had left and willingly I fell into it each day.

Eventually, I came here. I stumbled upon Neil's book and
chandeliers of ideas exploded in my head. The question
etched itself more boldly on my brain as I turned each page:
Would it all work on her?

...

Ring

"Hello."

"Hey, it's me."

"I know."

"Pick a number between 1 and 10 but don't say what it is."

"Um...OK."

"It's 7, right?"

"Yeah, what!? How did you..."

"I think I'm becoming psychic."

"Whatever. No you're not."

"Yeah, I went to this palm-reading lady and she had me do
this intuitive test called The Cube. I think it made me
psychic."

"Really, what was it?"

"Well, it's called The Cube and it tells you all about
yourself in a few questions. So first question..."

I demonstrated higher value, I disqualified, I elicited
values, I showed pre-selection, I sank neuro-linguistic
programming anchors every chance I got, and I built jealousy
plotlines like the ancient Egyptians build pyramids. To her
I became the all new attractive and exciting model of me. We
were together again, watching movies, having dinner, taking
road trips, and screwing like rabbits might on the night
before bunny Armageddon.

Almost a perfect story, but I couldn't keep it up forever. I
had only whitewashed the exterior of a rotting house. Inside
I was still hurt and unconfident. I juggled a good game for
a few months and then the bottom dropped out. And this time
our biting actions and burning words scarred our memories of
each other forever.

Now, many of you like I, came here for her, that one girl
that you are broken for. Often I am asked "How do I get her
back?" And yes I know the prescription for your affliction,
it's my own design. Yet to take that pill into your heart
is to invite doom there. It is the sin of vanity to seek to
resuscitate that which has died, to create your own
relationship monster of Frankenstein. The truth is that if
you manage to get her back it will self-destruct again.
There's too much hurt surrounding you both to make it right.

I know this truth doesn't dispel the hurt. In fact, it takes
some hard work on your part to move past it, but, you can
make it go away forever. There is no quick fix. You can use
this community and it's teachings to spackle over your
faults, however, this never allows you to rebuild your house
of attraction to its maximum height. We have all the secrets
you wish you knew since you first wanted to kiss a girl
instead of just pull her ponytails. If you put in the time
and effort to truly learn, then you become better. You can
mold yourself to be the life of the party, the guy with
the girlfriend of his dreams, the guy not afraid to approach
any woman you are attracted to.

Today, after the hurt is over I'm glad that I had her. I'm
glad that together we ripped a hole in my heart because
without it I wouldn't have met all of you. I wouldn't have
learned to be the man I am today. So embrace the pain and
make it the fuel that lights your fire of self-improvement.
Don't go after her and re-open the dark door of hurt, it
always ends one way.

Thank you Marlene.

**A good story, the technique in this one is somewhat old-school, but it works.


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Dating Tip: Social Conditioning, your own barrier that you have to over come to get a GREAT sex life. Inner Game.

Dating Tip: Social Conditioning, your own barrier that you have to over come to get a GREAT sex life. Inner Game.

by Gunnwitch
I just got you realizing how these things you might be conditioned with are negatively impacting your sex life.

Right here I'm going to go in to a short quick list of common possible similar ones that might be impairing you.

Going to straighten out your "internals" here. You see Many many "dating for morons" type of books list off 500 pages of "do this" "don't do that's", many of them in conflict of course because the authors compiled the entire material from some magazine articles written by the very same "conditioners" you don't want to be listening to in the first place.

What REALLY works is having your internal conditioning set right. Every action you take, every mental state you enter and show, every way you interact and every dynamic you introduce between you and a woman is going to be determined by your inner beliefs and being. Faking it just wont fly. The mask you put on will crumble at some point startling the woman you are interacting with in to the opposite state of mind about you that's desired.

I have to get YOU actually thinking the right way about women, first and foremost. Why learn a bunch of bizarre tricks and tactics, when you can instead learn to actually be YOU and get the girl? Rhetorical question.

Link up any conditionings you may have that might be giving you similar problems as you go over the list.

SO now I'll list off and explain some of these conditioned things that may be hurting you.


Conditioning 1:

"Women don't like sex, they only want money, romance, status, to look good, etc etc etc.".

This conditioning as mentioned above, is just a tragedy of a thought process. THE FIRST thing you must realize is that women LOVE SEX. Biologically we do differ, but compulsion and physical drive for sex is just as important to women as it is to us. They LOVE sex.

The FIRST understanding and best realization is this one. It isn't only YOUR conditioning you are dealing with, but HERS as well. See women don't usually, though they do a lot more since 2000 or so, come right out with their desire for sex at a verbal level. They have the conditioning that "sex is for tramps and sluts" "sex should only be with a guy your know really well". The balance between her attraction to you (don't worry I teach you this) and her conditioning against sex is, "THE GAME" or the male to female dynamic.

Probably top number one fear in dealing with men for a woman is being thought of as "easy" or "a slut".

Women enjoy sex more than men in truth. The studies and statistics say otherwise because women are outright conditioned to lie and say this, even when anonymously asked. It seems even in a "herd mentality" or evolutionary manner women have been trained to lie like this for the greater good of them all. What I mean is it seems they almost do this automatic, they don't think to themselves "I want to deceive this person" they really seem to THINK they don't like sex, YET FEEL that sex is their entire drive in life.

When we as men are made to feel inadequate we try to qualify ourselves and make up for it as "PAYMENT" for her "gift of sex to us". We then say nice things to her and give her gifts and support her with our hard work. This is no conspiracy theory, it is just fact if you look beyond the television and what women SAY, but start to watch women's actions. 99.99% of good-looking women ALWAYS have REGULAR sex, yet still say they don't like it and that guys aren't important to them. Stop and think for a moment why they would be doing this if what they say is true.

Women have rarely invented anything, lead a revolution, have many hobbies or talk much about anything that isn't pop culture based.

Women focus on makeup, hair, exercise and clothing to attract men better, relationships, dramatic television romance.

Look at male inventors, leaders, rulers, and innovators vs. the number of females in such endeavors. Go to a martial arts class, look at sports, look at business, and look at politics. The numbers are staggering of men in higher proportion in ANY field that isn't sexually oriented or "more attraction" based. Aside from workplaces of neutral nature obviously, but in actual applied willpower to any area, chicks are all about sex. It is not MEN who "think with their genitals" as it's claimed, it's women.

I can already hear women reading this proving me right by saying I am a misogynist or don't know what I am talking about because I insulted them. PROVING right there that they see themselves as "women", their identity is "a woman". Women with some passions in their life don't see themselves as a "woman" just as men never see themselves as a "man" they are a "fighter" a "comedian" a "teacher".

A woman can be a "mother" or a "writer" or a hell even a "soldier". Women with an identity outside their gender aren't offended when someone talks about "women", just as men aren't offended by talk of "men" because we usually have an identity outside our gender.

So KNOW that women are VERY scared of being thought of as a sexual fiend who not only wants us men same as we want them, but NEEDS our sex badly. To reveal this to men too often or too much is like breaking an unspoken untaught code amongst women.

Think back to high school, a big workplace or college. There was probably a fairly attractive maybe even stunning woman or girl there. Intelligent, fun to talk to, maybe even a real decent genuine human being. She would have easily been "one of the in crowd". She fucked a couple guys though. Maybe just didn't know the guys well. Maybe one guy she fucked was the boyfriend of the "top dog chick". Whatever the reason, she is "out". Basically thought of as lower than she is, less than she is as a person. Branded "lower" because of allowing her love of sex to go against social rules and conditionings.

Surely women fear this. Outright fear from what I've encountered, not just a passing "that would suck", but REAL fear of it.

That's just what can happen to her for acting on it without not only HER discretion, but the discretion of any who may be watching. Many women even repress their sexuality for fear of men not wanting them and branding them the same "slut" or "whore" that other women will. Just as many men repress their sexuality for fear of looking needy or desperate, or otherwise offending the "anti sexual conditioners".

YIKES! Right? Don't worry I will show you how to get around that.


But realize here, physically healthy normal women do like sex at a biological level just as much and sometimes more even than we do. They are just conditioned against it at spontaneous or promiscuous levels. Conditioned against making the first move sexually and are also conditioned to say they don't enjoy it.


Conditioning 2:

"Women only like jerks" "nice guys finish last" "girls only go for assholes"

As talked about above also this is bullshit.

This can be perceived by "nice guy culture" as an excuse for a poor love life and justified because they are such catchy sayings.

This is perceived only. An extension of conditioning 1 is all it really is. Many guys who are conditioned that women don't like sex tend to then also not be sexual in nature to appease them.

Ends up in a giant fuckin loop.

"Well I wasn't pushy with her, I wasn't desperate or needy for sex" "she still didn't have sex with me or even pay attention to me" "women must not like sex".

This one can take years to get out of, abandon this shit right here right now.

This is ALL verbally based. Nothing you can be, or project or show sexually is "jerk", nothing you can be or show or project is "needy", "desperate" or "pushy".

Barring :

Ramming your pelvis in to hers upon first meeting (jerk)

Slapping her ass as she walks by (sexist jerk)

Hugging all over her on first sign of interest (needy)

Salivating and rubbing all over her (desperate)

Grabbing her arm and trying to make her get sexual with you (pushy).

Laughing or smiling cause she is emotionally disturbed (insensitive dickhead)

Obvious shit of course.

Other than blatant things like the above you would have to SAY Jerkish or needy things to convey them:

"quit talking about your sickly little brother I am sick of hearing it" as an example of jerk, or desperate things sexually "I know we just met but I haven't had a woman in so long, please sleep with me tonight" as an example of needy.

In other words feel what you are. Feel your desire; don't quell it for worry you'll be thought of one way or another. Your actions and words are how you will be thought of (more on this later, lot more). Women can't read your mind and tell what you are thinking, and even if they could, quelled sexuality would not be a turn on. This leads us to our next example.

Conditioning 3:

"Chicks dig gay guys"

Or women say, "all the good men are gay".

Yeah they SAY they like them. Remember above? Well they also by "the code" have to say they like a man who doesn't care about sex. They even hang out with them. Hug them, give them kisses, dance with them, and leave the club with them. Probably sounds better than what you are getting right? But guess what! They don't FUCK EM cause they are GAY. Barring bisexuals who deal with the same sexual issues we do with women, women LIKE gay guys they don't FUCK them for obvious reasons.

This leads us to the next one

Conditioning 4:

"We want what runs from us"

"We want what we can't have"

"Women like a guy who doesn't pay any attention to them"

Mentally warped people with self-esteem issues may think like this. "I wouldn't be a part of any club that would have me" type of thinking is all this is. The rest of the 99% of human beings like a good thing to come along.

This conditioning turns in to a perception sometimes. EVEN worse. You just talk to a woman you sexually desire but don't show any desire, she in turn responds well. You maybe even try to act disinterested. "Alright she is liking me" you think. You then later on make an advance, and get "we should just be friends" or "I have to get up early". Also known as letting you down easy.

She wasn't attracted to your non-sexual act. She was just being polite to someone who she was introduced to or talked to her. People do that sometimes, just sometimes, with interesting people or nice people. End game comes, closing time, time for the mamba wamba. Suddenly you have broken this precedent in attempting sex/kiss/intimacy.

Drag it on with getting her phone number, meeting her, taking her out on a date later, drag it on long as you like, but if she doesn't see you as a sexual being, an attractive sexual partner, closing time comes, then it's all been just a big waste of time.

You've done that. Seen that. Heard of actions like this and they worked? Well it could have worked quicker with the same couple because they were so physically hot for each other, it could have worked out a number of ways. Only in cases of extreme attraction does this work. We aren't in the business of getting lucky here folks; we are going to drive home the right way.

Never hide your sexual desires to be "liked". Never pretend "oh I'm not interested in you" to get past her conditioning against sex. This will not only backfire it will waste your time.


Conditioning 5:

"Women say the first thing they want is a sense of humor"

"Chicks dig my sense of humor"

"Damn John gets laid a lot, must be cause he keeps the chicks laughing"


A commonly observed scenario: a woman laughs at guy's jokes, and then ends up having sex with him later on. Predictably, every guy there who sees it says, "She must like a guy with a sense of humor", and proceed to go out and ENTERTAIN, rather than attract women, in hopes that she will like them SOOO much she will jump his bones right there. This is not going to happen unless she is VERY attracted to him in another way. We want to work with what looks we have and move them in the right directions for sex better than other guys, not create a non sexual rapport with jokes and funny stories.

See there are a thousand ways to get rapport with women and then have sex with them if they are attracted to your looks, money or status already in the first place. IF ALL you have is that rapport that you have you built, it's only that she "likes you" or rapport it does not mean you have attracted her enough for sex to go down.

When a woman is asked, "what do you like in a guy?" she doesn't usually say "LOOKS and GOOD SEX" or else be branded a slut, as above was mentioned she wouldn't say that. SO, she grumbles the stock answer "a guy with a sense of humor". Which is true at least, she does LIKE a sense of humor.

She LIKES those funny men; she doesn't HAVE SEX WITH those funny men unless they happen to be attractive as well as funny.

By the way, when a woman says "confidence" that's as close to saying " a guy who knows I want to have sex and creates the opportunity for it aggressively" as women usually get. More on confidence later.

A sense of humor isn't a bad thing, but it's not sexually motivating or progressive. Stand up comedians are often natural entertainers because they have learned that their poor looks can be accepted that way. In the same way the guys with conditioning type four do. Check stand or bar stool comedians are the same entity with less talent. At the end of the night they go home and fuck the sleeve of their favorite jacket rather than a woman. Again some people say, "nice guy's finish last", because they see the funny entertainer go home alone. These conditionings are all linked in a real bad way.

Conditioning 6:

" A guys got to be unique for women to like him"
Again it doesn't hurt to be unique, but there's that LIKE word again. Women do not say to themselves "WOW this 450lb fat guy with greasy hair and pimples just landed on a space ship and can levitate, I want to fuck him". A LOT of guys spend all their time trying to be so different they forget to just be a natural masculine sexual man.

Ask any woman and if she answers honestly she has in fact had sex with guys she found not only boring but probably didn't even really "like". They had no redeeming value other than the fact they were attractive to her, made themselves available to her or happened to be available and didn't wait for her to make the moves or also known as they tried to fuck her.

Conditioning 7:

" I should be getting laid"
"I'm a loser cause I can't get hot chicks"
"People must think I'm lame cause I haven't been laid in so long"
" I think she's hot but she doesn't make anyone envy me"

BULLSHIT!

Your sex drive is YOUR sex drive. YOUR satisfaction is what counts. If you don't have actual desire for sex, you shouldn't be trying to get laid for other people to look upon you better. DROP THE EGO.

I'm not telling you to go fuck fat chicks here or bag ladies or something nasty.

But if you would really like to be having sex with her, GREAT, DO IT. What the friends of 99.5% of the people reading this material right now, don't know could fill a library, plus some. Concerns like "man you've been doing 10 times as much heroin since you met her" are worth listening to. Concerns like "dude your girls nasty" should not be. It's entirely your prerogative. Anyhow people will deny your success to feel better about themselves and say your chick isn't hot and that their chicks are, so don't bother listening to it.

Thinking you should be a ladies man, or that you should be getting at least one chick a month in bed, thinking you should have a girlfriend, thinking anything about your sex life and who it makes you as a person is worthless. YOUR desires are all you should care about.

This may sound simple and a waste of time to say. But MANY guys I've met are fueled by this ego of a "what do people think of me" kind. What I mean is they heard I was some sort of Casanova and tried to meet me, asked me out to a bar etc. Most of these were guys who just wanted a girlfriend, maybe wanted to be able to get laid once in a while, but they came out guns blazing, "I want to lay a new chick every week" they would say, when only maybe 1 in 200 guys have that kind of a genuine sexual drive. Even then, once he does it for a couple months it gets old, the excitement wears off and more time needs to be taken in between. These giant figures are all just his ego talking, not his true desire.

Really analyze yourself, what do you really want? That's all that matters.

Conditioning 8:

"A guys got to have a lot of money to spend on women"

"Women need a lot of wooing to get them in bed"

Again utter bullshit. I don't buy women fancy dinners. I don't buy women flowers. I don't buy women little drinks with umbrellas in them. I don't offer to buy women cars, I wouldn't even if I could afford to. I know they love sex and that's what they really want, I don't need to qualify their sex being shared with me with gifts or luxury.

The guy from my example above for instance. LOVED to send girls drinks with his number in a napkin wrapped around it. You know how many called him ever? NONE.

The same guy, when we finally did get him approaching women. would start out with how wonderful and beautiful she was. I don't use this guy in so many examples because he is the worst I ever met, but because he was so common to the rest of the men I've trained.

Kissing ass or buying shit for women gets you "in" but not "IN" if you get my meaning. If you don't, I of course mean that people love that shit, you could buy a straight as an arrow man a drink in a bar, he would LIKE you, but wouldn't fuck you if you tried afterwards. You could tell same guy "you have a really great presence bro" he would again like that, you then tried to fuck him later in the night you would probably get a punch in the nose.

It goes for women as well. If the attraction isn't there, and you do nothing to amplify any base small level of attraction, you have just wasted your money or compliments.

The bad thing is, it can even be counter productive. Meaning she may see you as only doing the thing you did because you aren't adequate sexually, or as a man. Tell her she's a stunning marvel of a woman or offer to buy her dinner in the restaurant you are eating in as your first line? You'll probably get taken up on it; but she will wonder why you did something like this. Rather than presenting YOU to her, you have shown her that "indeed this drink with the umbrella in it is of higher value than me".

Also just think if "Olga the terrible" asked you the same thing? You would say, "Hmmmm, am I going to sleep with her EVER, nope, better not take the free dinner"? BULLSHIT! Even if so, don't count on every woman you encounters ethics being strong enough for her to not say "I just got to take advantage of this guy wanting me".

Conditioning 9:

"All the women I want don't want me"

"Really good looking women are stuck up"

"The best lookers out there all have a man already'

LOOKS OBSESSION is what this is called. Guys are almost ALWAYS like this and it fucks them up big time.

Looks and attraction at a biological first sight level are in the eye of the beholder. 9 Times out of ten if you truly look at a woman and she is REALLY your exact type, "your 10", she will see YOU ALSO as FAR more attractive than say your "6" would see you back.

If you don't believe me go test it out for yourself, approach 10 women total. 5 should be very average to plain looking 5 should be your EXACT type. The results will shock you.

Barring men who could easily mistake their 10 for a transsexual with fake boobs a ton of makeup and long blonde wigs because society has deemed that "the 10", something is in the biology that makes people match up with someone who really turns them on.

This makes us want to have more sex, which makes more babies and makes the race survive, pretty common sense I suppose. I suppose it makes sense if you don't go by societies "the 10", as your 10 out of ego, or think that the women you find most attractive must be the same ones ALL other men find most attractive so they will be in too much demand for you to get.

Watch TV with any other guy that doesn't look much like you or come from the same gene pool and rate women 1-10. Some of your absolute 10s will be his 7s and vice versa.

Tastes vary, and a great way to get the women you TOTALLY want is to of course go for the women you totally want, it's the only way really. Funny thing is they tend to reciprocate better than "easier average" women do, as there are no "average women" really, it's all in the sexual genetic makeup/eye of the beholder.

I've known both types of guys that fuck this up. Those who are scared to approach the women they REALLY want because they assume ALL men want them so much they can't compete, and also even worse the ego guys who feel if she isn't acceptable to all other men she is "easy" or "average".

Drop the ego, or putting on a pedestal of women you find to be of beauty, and go for what you really desire most in women's looks instead.

Those are just 9 of the most common conditionings there are. A "tour of fucked up", if you prefer. If you didn't see yours on the list, more are coming in later lessons so don't worry.

This entire course from foundations to advanced is just conditioning that is faulty and correcting it. MANY men have great sex lives without advanced concepts of some sort. They are the "naturals" with the ladies, Natural itself indicates that something is unnatural about the rest of us, or that we "don't get it" etc, which can be offensive a bit. " I AM NO IDIOT, the problem MUST be more complex than this", comes to mind.

The thing is, it's rather simple, but also rather complex in that it's been your whole life's experiences shaping this line of thinking. Don't feel bad about it. Don't feel good about it either though. Just accept the mindsets and materials in this course. Take yourself out in the world with them and see there are far better ways to think, and provide you more pleasure than the reverse.

YOUR MISSION: Sit in peace and quiet for a while and write out your past interactions with women. Analyze what you can remember and see where the above conditionings may have affected you in some way. Write out maybe what you would have done different without those conditionings holding you back and a scenario of her responding more positive. I am serious do this.

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How to call a woman and ask her out on a date. Dating and Flirting tips for men.

How to call a woman and ask her out on a date. Dating and Flirting tips for men.

How to Call a Woman

by David DeAngelo

When you get a woman's number and you're picking up the phone to call and "ask her out", does it bother you?
How To Call A Woman To Ask Her Out

I have a question for you...

When you get a woman's number and you're picking up the phone to call and "ask her out", does it bother you?

Do you get freaked out?

Do you start thinking about exactly what you're going to say, how you're going to say it, how to deal with her rejecting you... etc.?

Do you ever get NERVOUS when you're dialing the phone?

You know that feeling when you just start getting anxious for no logical reason, and you just CAN'T control it?

Have you ever had to actually HANG UP because you were so damn freaked out... and you just couldn't follow through with it?

OK, now another set of interesting questions...

Have you ever called a woman, and started talking to her, only to realize that she was in a COMPLETELY different mood from the last time?

Have you ever had a woman "turn cold" on you all of a sudden?

It's almost like you're talking to a different person from the girl you met just a day or two before... and it makes no sense to you... right?

And finally...

Have you ever worked up the nerve to call, gotten her on the phone, had a great conversation, but when it came time to ask her out, you froze up because you didn't know what to say?

Or even worse, have you ever gotten to the end of the conversation and asked her out, only to have her answer with:

"Well, maybe... call me Friday afternoon... OK?"

or...

"Actually, I'm going to be busy all this week, but thanks for asking... (silence)"

...?

Have you ever had one of those conversations where you could just TELL that something wasn't right... and that she wasn't going to be taking you up on your date offer, or calling you back at all anytime soon?

So why all the problems?

What is it about this particular few minutes of time that constantly ends in problems for guys?

I personally think that this issue comes down to a few key DEEPER ISSUES.

And I think that if you don't have these other issues "handled", you're going to keep running into problems... and NEVER even know WHY...

...which sucks.

I mean, it's bad enough to keep having a particular problem and not figure out how to solve it... but the idea that the solution is in doing something you would never think of is a little bit maddening.

In other words, I think that this is all about understanding the problem, and actually PREVENTING it from coming up... rather than trying to "solve it" in the moment.

Let me put it this way...

If you're dialing the phone, and you're starting to feel nervous, then it's already too late to solve the problem.

No quick fix will help you.

Or if you're on the phone with her and you have just asked her out on a date, and she says "Um, let me call you back in a few days and tell you"... and you start to get that sinking feeling because you know she's blowing you off... IT'S TOO LATE.

There's no "magic pill" at this point.

The answer is PREVENTION.

THE MAGIC FORMULA

So let's take a few minutes and talk about the issues and what CAUSES them.

Here are some of the "root causes", and how I see them...

1) Having no other options.

If you're sitting at the phone with ONE phone number in your hand, and you haven't been out on a date in a long time, and you are feeling DESPERATE, you're probably going to get VERY nervous.

When you have no other options, the single one in front of you becomes VERY valuable.

Translation: You want it TOO badly.

This AUTOMATICALLY triggers your emotional system, because at some level you realize that if you screw this up, it's all over. And you know that it's all going to happen in just an few SECONDS.

The pressure is too much!

2) Putting too much importance on a single girl.

Now, if you have a girl that you've been dating for six months, and you've decided that she's one in a million, it makes sense to put a lot of importance on your relationship with her.

But if you don't know a girl very well, or you haven't even dated her at all, then you are only setting yourself up for major disappointment by putting too much importance on ANY girl.

3) Thinking you need to IMPRESS her.

This is a HUGE issue.

Most men "unconsciously" behave and communicate like they're trying to IMPRESS the woman of their desires.

When you think about this, it only makes sense... of course you'd want to impress the woman you like... so she'll think you're a cool guy and want to be with you.

But have you ever thought for a moment how an interesting, attractive woman sees it when a guy is TRYING to IMPRESS her?

Well, here's the INSTANT and UNCONSCIOUS response that women have:

"He's trying to hard. There's something wrong. This guy must have something he's trying to hide... and he must be pretty insecure."

In other words, the INSTANT you do something or say something that is an obvious attempt at impressing a woman, her radar system screams:

"WUSSY!"

4) Having expectations and being attached to them.

You might think of this one as a variation of "wanting it too much"... only slightly different.

When you start getting your hopes and expectations up, you begin to get ATTACHED to them.

Then you run the risk of HOLDING ON TOO TIGHT to your little fantasy.

Bad idea.

Women don't date guys who assume too much, act too comfortable, or fall for them too quickly.

Remember, beautiful women have guys falling for them left and right.

In fact, they almost EXPECT guys to go out on one or two dates with them, then say "You know, I really like you..." and other equally predictable sentiments.

Just like being desperate can destroy your chances with a woman, liking a woman too much, too fast, and creating expectations leads to crazy, stupid mistakes as well.

Now, think over what I just said...

I'm basically saying that if you want to cure the problem of freaking out when you call women to ask them out, and the problem of screwing it up when you have that first conversation and ask them out the first time, then you have to go INSIDE first... and do some preventative maintenance on yourself.

And the GOOD NEWS is that this stuff is not only good for you, it also helps you get even MORE dates with interesting women.

So here's what to do about this particular problem:

1) Get more options.

If you go out one evening with a couple of friends, and you meet a REALLY hot girl... and you wind up having a fun conversation, and getting her number, what should you do?

RIGHT! Go get at least ONE MORE girl's number. More, if you can.

This way, when you're picking up the phone to call (or sending out emails, or whatever), you've got another woman to call right after her...

In other words, if it doesn't go well, no big deal. No sweat at all.

Instead of putting all your "hopes" in this one situation, go get more options... this will prevent many problems, as well as giving you more women to date!

And think about it... when are you MOST likely to get a woman's phone number? When are you the most likely to be in a great mood that actually ATTRACTS women?

Exactly... in the moments after you've already gotten another woman's number.

So take advantage of this time!

2) Dial the phone expecting it to NOT work out with this girl.

I have news for you: Most women have something about their personality, behavior, future plans, etc. that is going to disqualify them from being good "potential mates" for you.

Now, I'm not saying that "all women are screwed up", etc.

What I AM saying is that you need to realize that the only reason you're freaking out so much is because your EMOTIONS are running the show.

You need to think about how rare it is that you actually meet a girl that is COMPATIBLE with you... that you'd enjoy spending time with even if she wasn’t good-looking.

If you have this in mind as you're dialing the phone, you won't have that "I'm desperate" vibe going on.

You won't be talking like a guy who has a gun to his head, either... which is a good thing... because women get weirded-out by this kind of thing.

3) Instead of asking a woman out, tell her what you're doing, and then tell her she can come along if she wants.

Why is "asking a woman out" early on a bad idea? Because if you don't have a world-class understanding of male/female dynamics, you're going to come across as a guy who is trying to use food as date-bait.

In other words, if the first thing out of your mouth is "I'd like to take you out to dinner" it's going to be interpreted as "I don't think you're probably going to accept an invitation to spend time with me unless I throw in something extra...".

Weak.

And that's how SHE sees it.

The alternative?

Tell her that you're going to be doing something, and that she should join you.

"Hey, I'm going to go down to Starbucks and get a cup of tea. You should join me. I'm way more fun than whatever else you were going to do... and that's a fact!"

Extra bonus points:

Hint that she's missing out if she doesn't accept immediately.

If she hems and haws, or hesitates... just interrupt and say "Hey, you're the one who's missing out".

I also like "You know, never mind. I guess you don't like to have fun...".

Great stuff!

This is solid Cocky & Funny material, and it's the right time to use it.

You know, I personally used to get VERY freaked out when calling women for the first time on the phone... and "asking them out".

Now that I understand this particular "moment in time" better, and now that I understand more of the "dynamics" of what's going on, I get MUCH better results personally...

In fact, I never get "nervous" anymore when calling women, and I rarely if EVER have a woman "flake out" on me.

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How to talk to a woman on the phone? How to make her call you! Attraction Dating Seduction tips.

Attraction Dating Seduction tips: How to talk to a woman on the phone? What to do if she doesn't call you back?
Phone Game:

by Tyler Durden

Now when it comes to the idea that "if a girl disrespects me I'll NEXT her", that isn't my frame at all. To me, you can't NEXT a girl who you haven't slept with.

I get a phone call from an ex-girlfriend that I'm still close with. We still hook-up, but I value her more as someone who I can talk to now. I think that may change when I stop travelling and I'm around more. For some reason, she's an anomaly who is very self aware of her tendencies. That is, as opposed to most girls I meet, who only offer useless socially conditioned rhetoric, whenever you ask them about male/female interaction.

Over the course of the conversation, the topic of dating comes up. I ask, "What does it mean when you meet up with a guy, have a great time, maybe even kiss, but then when he calls you don't go out with him? Like you make up excuses and don't return his calls."

She replies, "Well there's this guy, Chris, who I met the other night. I really liked him. I offered him my number. He called me the other night, and asked me to meet up. I told him 'You know what, I think I actually will. Let me call you back.' I really wanted to meet up. For some reason I never did though. The thing is, that I can feel the emotion that I felt when I gave him my number, at the time that we're talking on the phone. But the second we hang up, poof, it’s gone. Also, I actually have scheduling issues. It's not like this is someone who I'm already friends with, who I'd give priority to. This is some new person that I barely know. If he happens to catch me at the right time, I'd go out with him. But I won't take the time or go out of my way to return his calls. I don't call guys."

I reply, "So theoretically, you're sufficiently attracted to this guy that under different circumstances you could have wound up sleeping with him. Or even gotten into a five year relationship, for all you know. But just because of ill luck in timing and because he actually believed that you'd call him back, now you'll never see him again. Is this weird to you at all?"

She replies, "Nope. It makes perfect sense. I don't care either way, because I have guys available to me at all times so it's my last priority. That guy was cool and I thought he was cute, and maybe I'll see him again later or something. I also just give out my number to be social most of the time. It doesn't mean I have any intentions at all."

I reply, "He could use that opportunity to continue the interaction to generate attraction down the line, no?"

She replies, "It's happened before. Really I just don't want to meet new guys. I like being social when I'm out. But if I'm attracted to a guy, I'll probably flake on him. I've already slept with enough guys (she's nineteen years old, and has been with five guys), I don't want to sleep with anymore right now. When I was with my two friends hanging out at these guys' house, we made each other promise not to let each other do anything because the guys were cute."

I reply, "OK that makes sense. What if he's really good looking? Does that make a difference? Also, do you think that when he calls it’s better for him to chat you for a while, so you can be reminded of why you gave him your number in the first place? Or should he just call and immediately try to make plans? Also, do you think it’s better to call you out on your bullshit in a funny way if you flake?"

She answers, "Looks means nothing when it comes to that stuff. I know within seconds if I could or couldn't sleep with a guy. I knew within seconds that we'd have sex, the night that we met."

I reply, "Are you serious? I don't think that my looks are on a level that you'd want to sleep with me the second you saw me."

She replies, "True. But it’s in your energy. The way you come across. I can't explain it. As long as you're not morbidly disfigured your looks won't be the main thing I judge on. Girls all say they want looks, but they wind up with guys who aren't hot all the time. There's so many guys that I think are so hot, and I sit there waiting for them to talk and I'm all excited, and they're like "hi" with some stupid line, and they sound retarded and act weird. It's such a letdown, and most hot guys are like that."

I reply, "Do you think the 25 point list I showed you has to do with that kind of stuff?"

She replies, "Yes, definitely. Also stuff that you don't have in there, like just your voice and facial expressions."

I reply, "OK, what about the other stuff with calling girls out on bratty behaviour? Like confronting her for flaking?"

She replies, "Well if a guy tries to argue with me, I'll just hang up on him. He would have to do it in a totally funny way that doesn't make me upset or annoyed."

I reply, "Last night, I call up this flaky girl, and say 'You're so annoying to get a hold of! It's so cute though, you're so confused and disorganized. It's like you're my bratty little sister. I don't even think I'm attracted to you anymore, I just want to take care of you and help you get organized like a big brother.'... Then she started giggling and said 'No no no.. I'll meet up with you, don't think of me like that!'.. Do you think that was a good approach?"

She replies, "Yeah definitely. That was funny and if you did that to me, I'd be like "Oh yeah, well maybe I WILL meet up with you then!"

I reply, "OK awesome. So do you think it’s good to talk for like 15 minutes to remind her of what she gave you her number in the first place, and then go for a meet?"

She replies, "Probably longer than that actually. I'm not sure. For you maybe less time because you do this stuff. But most guys have no chance unless they're lucky because I'm either bored or looking for something at that point in time. I guess their best bet is to try to talk to me as much as possible, so I become friends with them."


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A few thoughts on this.

First, guys will attribute flaking to a lack of attraction. I disagree with this line of thinking. Girls go into state, and forget about it down the line. In fact, most of what occurs while a girl’s buying temperature is escalated will be forgotten by the girl. They become disassociative and cognitive dissonance kicks in.

Have you ever noticed that whatever drama happens the night you meet a girl will be forgotten if you wind up dating? It's because nothing that happens while she's in state counts to her. That's also why we don't bother worrying about whether or not a girl has a boyfriend. She becomes disassociative when she's attracted, so it’s not relevant to the interaction.

That being the case, there are a few tendencies that guys in the scene have, that I think are wrong-headed:

1- Calling a girl on her bullshit for flaking in a way that isn't cute or fun, or in a way that sounds angry or like you actually care. In my experience, the only girls who respond to that are the types who respond to this sort of behaviour in general, which is a certain type of girl that is not the majority.

2- Putting the girl in a position where she has to call you back or its over.

3- Refusing to follow up with girls who don't make it easy to meet up with them again by, and thinking that you're somehow 'NEXTing' them.

4- Thinking that all value is strictly conveyed in person, and that it is a bad idea to talk for a long time on the phone because it makes you look needy. Not that you *need* to call long. But rather, call as long as you feel like. Calibrate so as to hang up before she gets bored, but enjoy the interaction as long as you want. It's just that much more comfort building, and is only taking you that much closer to the endzone.

5- Giving up if the girl stands you up, because you think she isn't attracted.


For me, there are a few things that I'll do when it comes to the phone. First, if a girl flakes me, I'll tease her on it in a funny way. I never get angry or look genuinely upset about it. I never focus on reasoning with them logically.

I also don't give up if a girl doesn't call back. At the same time, if they say they'll call back I'll say I don't get upset like I know they won't. I'll just say "OK cool." and give them the chance. But then if they don't call back when they said they would, I'll call back a bit later and just re-initiate the conversation as if I don't even remember that they didn't follow up.

Now when it comes to the idea that "if a girl disrespects me I'll NEXT her", that isn't my frame at all. To me, you can't NEXT a girl who you haven't slept with. In my view, that's just her NEXT'ing you. It's only a girl that I'm already with that I'll do this to if she annoys me or crosses my boundaries.

For a girl I haven't slept with yet though, I have a certain beliefs. She owes me nothing. It's all a game. No relationship or connection exists between us until we've been together physically, because she reserves the right to walk away at any point. I have no emotional ties to the interaction, and I have no ego about it. I just do what I think will work.

I also believe that there is a fundamental problem with many of the social ideas about how often and when to call. For example, there exists an idea in society that waiting to call will create scarcity and value, as well as increase anticipation. To me this is very wrong thinking. Notice that it stems from the fact that 99% of pickups in society are SOCIAL CIRCLE pickups. So for that kind of phone number, you'd have probably had the tension building for weeks or months before the number was exchanged. Of course waiting is better – it’s been building for months. But for girls you met on a cold approach, that is not the case.

I know what world the girls live in. They live in the same world that I do. The world where you meet tons of girls (in their case its guys), and tons of them like you and tons of them validate you. When I get home from a club, I literally cannot remember the names or faces of girls I met. To be more accurate, I literally barely remember the names or faces of the last three girls I had sex with. I just got off the phone with a girl that I was with less than twelve hours ago, and PlayboyLA and I had to think for five minutes about what her name was before I returned her call. And I LIKED that girl. I remember she was a hot brunette around my height, and seemed cool. But that's about it.

For girls, it’s the same. They can barely remember anyone they meet, because they meet so many people. To make matters even worse, they become disassociative while they're in the club. Many of them have even had had a few drinks, but you couldn't tell. Of course, you can do daytime pickup. But regardless, the girls still have access to many other good looking alpha guys the second they want it. Most guys don't even realize that it is very rare that an attractive girl is not getting laid by one or more other guys. That's even when they're single. They're still sleeping with their ex-boyfriends, or some player on the side. It's not like a hot girl is NOT getting laid, anymore than you wouldn't be if you had the instant option. So when you're calling, they are about as motivated to meet up with you as you would be to drive across town to a good Italian restaurant, when you're eating a good bowl of Chinese right in front of you. Sure, the Italian would be great. But you have an unlimited Chinese buffet sitting right here. Why would you be bothered?

The girls don't get that needy feeling that the guys get. They are always validated, because they've been in the club at least twice a week, getting validated by all the guys complimenting them and buying them drinks.

When it comes to how I handle the phone, I don't worry that if I call back multiple times it will make me look bad. Because I have high social value, and don't subcommunicate any neediness, I can call as much as I want. In fact, I'll call two or three times in a row if she's not picking up, back to back. I'll call back whenever I feel like it, because it’s obvious that I'm amusing myself and that I don't really care. I could take it or leave it, and I'm just having fun. I'll call and shoot the shit, and then hassle her until she meets up. Whatever.

I also combat excuses by adding in phone freezeouts, and following them with playful teasing and some semi-logical stuff like "Hey, come chill for a few minutes. If you're bored, take off and we'll catch up later." My bro Mystery (www.mysterymethod.com) also has a field tested routine about how its weird to barrel through the first awkward half hour of meeting someone new, but everyone you know you had to go through it with, so let's just barrel through it.

My goal is to have the girl on the phone ASAP. I don't want them to have any time to forget that we have plans to meet up. I'll call girls' cellphones even as I'm leaving the club and going for afterbar food. I'll have pulled a girl from the club to an afterhours food place, and run off to the bathroom to call all my numbers, while my wing occupies our set (I have a habit of pulling a two set with my wing for same night, and take numbers from the choice girls in larger sets). Whether I reach them or not, I'll call them again as soon as I wake up the next afternoon, and get the ball rolling. I'm not thinking to make them wonder if I'll call or not, because I know they could care less. Not because they aren't attracted. Rather, because there are many attractive prospects on their plates, and regardless of my game, I'm one of many. The difference between me and them though, is that I'll get her and they won't, because I'll play it properly.

If a girl stands me up, I'll call her and make fun of her for it. I'll hassle her to meet up. I'll say I'm still there and she had better get her ass down there, because she's my little sister and if she doesn't get down here I don't know what trouble she'll get into if she doesn't have me there to supervise her. I don't care either if she wants her friends to come or not. All of this means nothing to me. I just want to see her again, because I'll get her no matter what she throws at me. The difference between a day1 and a day2 is that she's there to see *me*. So she has no excuse not to come back somewhere private if we're spending time together. And from there I can escalate.

So let's summarize. In my experience, I've found it best to get away from the idea that you're trying to make the girl fall in love with you before you hook up with her. Focus on just showing you're a cool guy who she has the potential to be attracted to, and then make it your only priority to see her again. Don't worry about your value over the phone. You can't wreck a sarge from over a phoneline. That makes no sense. If you're the kind of guy who she's attracted to, then just act congruent to that over the phone. Call her and get her accustomed and accepting that you're in her life now. Make plans, and if she is flaky don't worry about it, and be playfully persistent by chatting her more, not by talking non-stop about the flaking. Meet, have fun, connect, isolate, and from there its up to you.. :)


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