Dating Advice & Tips: How To Make Women Think Other Women Want You!
How to make her wants you and try to keep you for herself.
Here is some secret I want to share with you guys!
Many a man falling a few hundred feet short of possessing "conventional" good looks has sparked sexual tension in beautiful women.
But these women didn't necessarily feel an iota of attraction for these guys.
In fact...
Most guys - even male models - have the experience of triggering sexual tension in women yet failing to create attraction. (If you cannot create sexual tension in the women you desire.)
You ever experience this before? I certainly have. You’re bantering with a woman. You know she’s feeling the tension – and diggin’ it. But she’s not quite attracted to you. Something is missing.
A precondition for creating attraction in women is what I call Frame Control as Alpha Male.
Frame Control being a prize is having enough value in a woman's eyes that if you walked away from her or didn't validate her, she'd take it as a loss.
For some women, the sight of a bald, fat man transforms what’s between their legs into a super soaker.
However, these same women perceive characteristics like "large stature," "muscular physique," and "a full head of hair" as more valuable than "short," "bald," and "fat."
That's because what women see as high-value is usually defined by social proof... how valuable they think others perceive something as being.
For example... A girl might think some guy is about as appealing as a saucer of goat cum.
But if her friends see him as a high-value, she'll start seeing him as a prize or Alpha Male as well.
Just take a look at online dating profiles.
Most beautiful women request only tall, dark and handsome men with high paying jobs reply (and some women sporting bodies the size of a mini mart have an even more grisly "man quota").
If you feel nature short changed you. If you think the elephant man would trounce you in a beauty contest. Don't worry. There's hope. I promise.
Imagine a woman looking at a photo of two guys: one's tall, dark, and handsome; the other, four foot eleven, balder than Mr. Clean (if that’s possible), and 100 lb. overweight.
Obviously she's gonna see the first one as having higher-value.
But let's change one variable...
The second guy is surrounded by beautiful women while the first guy is alone.
Chances are… she's going to see the second guy as having higher value than the first.
Why?
Because of a psychological trigger hardwired into a woman’s brain called “social proof.”
Whenever other attractive women want or like a guy, she perceives that guy as having more Value – and most likely will start wanting him as well. It's similar to pack mentality of animal kingdom, ONLY ALPHA MALE is allow to MATE with all the female!
Maybe she’s one of those fuck-the-system, think-for-yourself kinda gals who believes she’s impenetrable to peer pressure?
Doesn’t matter. Most of the time social proof operates outside of conscious control.
Here are two ideas that might have popped into your head...
1). Showing a woman a photo album of you with other girls within the first five minutes of meeting her.
2). Hitting the nightlife with a harem of women in tow.
3). Make every girl at the bar swoon over you before approaching the girl you want.
The first idea might work. But personally, I think it can come across as a little - actually a lot - needy.
The second idea can work big time. In fact, I've used it before. The problem is... this only works if you have a network of females wanting to be your wing women.
Third idea: Another one I've used. Similar to number two, it works like a charm. Alas, you need some uber game to pull this one off. For most guys, this is just out of the cards.
But there's an alternative that's just as - if not more - powerful...
Built into the structure of male-female interactions is a Meta Frame. Think underlying meaning or subtext.
The Meta Frame defines one person as the Alpha Male; the other, as the one trying to win the prize over.
(If you've heard me talk about the Meta-Frame before, keep reading. In a minute, I'm going to share a crucial piece of the story you probably have NEVER heard about.)
I should warn you... this underlying meaning is not internal but external.
In other words, just believing you're the Alpha Male, doesn't make you high-status or value (though, as you'll see later, it can help).
Instead, your words and behaviors attempt to set the Frame and her reaction determines if she buys into the Frame… or vice-versa.
Socialized women have a know-how yet usually unconscious understanding of men’s behaviors, actions, and reactions to them.
That's why this whole frame game often happens below conscious awareness.
Let's look at an example...
Imagine a guy strolls up to a woman and spits his best lines at her and she rebuts with, "Sweetie... I don't mean to be rude, but I only date wealthy men," and then turns her head the other way.
He attempts to save his self esteem from drowning in a suicidal gloom by telling her, "You have NO idea how much money I make. I drive a brand new Lamborghini and live in a mansion."
He might consciously think to himself, "What a dumb bitch. I'm better than her. And she'll never get a guy as rich as me. She's trash."
But unconsciously he’s fallen into her frame.
She attempted to set the meta-frame that she's the Prize he's trying to win over when she said, "Sweetie... I don't mean to be rude, but I only date wealthy men."
By him qualifying to her about his money, he submitted to her frame.
In his gut, he knows it. But he's come up with a backwards rationalization about what happened. He might consciously think he really put her in her place.
But unconsciously he and the woman agree that she's the Prize and he's a groveling bitch trying to win her over.
For years, I've been teaching guys how to establish themselves as the Prize while interacting with women. Why? Because it's brought me and thousands of my students heaps of success with women.
But...
Every so often, I get an email from a guy saying, "I tried setting the Meta-Frame that I'm the High-Value Prize but the girl turned into a rhymes-with-witch and walked away."
When you set the Frame that you’re the High Value Alpha Male, be on the lookout for congruency tests. Tests to see if you’re congruent with being the High Value Male. You can FAKE it, but it's not going to LAST. But no worry being Alpha High-Value Male can be learn and it will take sometimes...
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