Dating Advice & Tip: why woman plays hard to get, playing game.

Dating Advice & Tip: WHY woman plays hard to get, playing game.

How do we come up on top and make her stop playing game? Ultimately how to get her!

As with many activities in life, the thrill of the dating game is often in the chase, not the capture. The destination may be intriguing, but it's the journey that keeps the interest level high. This is the basis of playing hard to get, a relationship tactic in which the pursuee deliberately holds the pursuer at bay in an effort to appear more alluring and selective. Playing hard to get is not the same as being hard to get, although the hapless victim of love may not realize it at the time.

Both men and women play a variation of the hard to get game while actively dating. Many men are taught to remain aloof whenever a woman flirts or shows definite interest. When a man plays hard to get, it is often a test to see how serious a woman is about him. If he doesn't return her phone calls for a few days but she continues to call, he knows she's still interested in him as a potential date. Men also play hard to get in order to appear more confident and intriguing. Many women prefer to work on a challenging relationship than to settle for a man who is always accessible.

Women sometimes play hard to get as a screening device, especially when they encounter more than one suitor at a time. Each man may go home with her personal phone number, but she determines which calls she will return and when. One thing many women of dating age want to avoid is the appearance of desperation. By playing hard to get, a woman establishes a sense of mystery about herself. If she returns all of her suitors' phone calls the next day, she may come across as too eager and too needy.

Playing hard to get can backfire if carried past a natural stopping point. The game is called playing hard to get, not impossible to find. Sooner or later, the pursuer and the pursuee must move on with their relationship or agree to drop the whole cat-and-mouse routine.

Playing hard to get may work as a screening device or an integrity test, but eventually, an interested suitor needs some evidence of mutual attraction. At some point, the chase, exciting as it may have been, needs to become the beginning of a new romantic relationship. Playing hard to get has its place in the dating scene, but once the game is over, it's over. New relationships thrive on access and openness, not the mixed signals of playing hard to get.

Hey Carlos,

I've been going out the last few weeks and meeting
people as a way to improve my social ability. I try
to get out at least two times a week to meet new
people, get some phone numbers, meet new women, etc.

Something I've noticed is that there is a lot more going
on in conversations than just the words. I mean, when I'm
talking with people (men, women, whoever) I find that
they are always playing this kind of tug-of-war with me
for control in the conversation.

Women like to play it for certain things, and guys want to
play it for power and status.

What's your take on this?

Can I get past the games?

CARLOS XUMA EXPLAINS SOCIAL GAMES:


You know, if there's one thing I hear all the time, from both
men AND women, it's "Why do we have to play all the
games?!?"

And you're right, men and women both play different kinds
of games with others. But surprisingly, they both want and
need a certain level of "ego-stroking" in their games.

The reasons we play games are nearly infinite, but they
all track back to some very common needs as human beings.

For one, we all need APPRECIATION.

Think of how much work you go through in life just to squeak
out a little appreciation or acknowledgment from other people.

It's really amazing when you think about it.

And the funny thing is that we all want this appreciation so
much that we hold it back from others, because we're so
starved for it.

And then what does this do? Yep, that's right. It creates this
universal shortage in the amount of pats on the back or
compliments given out there in the world.

And the less there is, the less people give, and the spiral
goes down and down and down....

That right there is a game all of its own. Have you ever
caught yourself doing that? I know I have.

These games we play all come from our inner needs and
emotional desires. And sometimes games just come up
because of the differences in approach between people.

- Some people are confrontational... but most are not.

- Some people like to talk about themselves... but some prefer
to be more discreet.

- Some people like to approach women directly... and some prefer
to do it more indirectly and cautiously.

There are good social games, and there are unhealthy and BAD
social games.

Now, as far as social games are concerned, there's one thing
I've noticed as being true in almost every interaction I've studied.

In fact it's pretty much a universal rule, and one that's been backed
up by studies everywhere...

It's this:

The person with the best social skills and ability to handle social
games is the person who typically gets what they want.

AND that person is also the one who gets more success in life
in all the ways we typically think of as "REAL" success.

More happiness, more friends, better love life...

It flows together because there is one thing that is FOR SURE:

You MUST deal with other people. And you can't reprogram them
to turn their "game playing" switch off.

So you must develop options.

Now this newsletter could go on forever on this topic. So what I
did was to write up 3 of these "game playing" personalities for
you. These three are the most dangerous types that play the
games that are NOT healthy.

That's why you have to see them coming and know how to
handle them.

Learn MORE How to Talk to Women Learn the Alpha Secrets of Conversation
and Persuasion - with Anyone


.....

-Dating tips: Understanding Woman their nature.
-Dating Advice for men: 8 rules of Confidence.
-Dating: Why do women test men?
-Dating: How to make her wants you.
-Dating: Should you tell a woman how you feel.
-Dating Advice for men: the game and the rules.
-How to date a woman of your dream.
-Seattle PUAs Lair Database
-Understanding women
-how to meet and date beautiful girls in college
-Valentine dating advice
-when to kiss a women, her.
-how to pick up woman daygame
-approach anxiety and how to overcome it.