Top mistakes that men make when approaching women

The top mistakes that men make when it comes to approaching women… and then I'd like to teach you STEP BY STEP how to overcome ALL of these mistakes… and create MASSIVE success for yourself with women.

Here are the biggest mistakes when it comes to approaching women:

MISTAKE #1: Not Knowing How To Deal
With Fear And Shyness

We are ALL afraid.

That's right. ALL of us are afraid.

In life, we all have fears… and it's up to each of us as individuals to either choose to overcome those fears… or choose to let those fears run our lives.

For most of us guys, we experience intense fear and shyness when it comes to APPROACHING women that we don't know.

Here's the part that's a “pain in the ass”: When you're experiencing fear and shyness, it feels like you're the ONLY ONE IN THE WORLD who has EVER felt this way.

The feeling can be SO intense, that it seems IMPOSSIBLE that anyone else could POSSIBLY have a “case” as bad as you. Know what I mean?

I laugh when I think about it, actually.

I have spent many, many hours in situations… looking at a woman that I'd like to approach… but just not being able to do it.

Then, later… after it's all over… I think BACK to the situation… and shake my head because I just couldn't figure out how to overcome my own FEAR… and just TALK TO HER.

The desperation that resulted from these situations was intense. It was embarrassing. It was demoralizing . It sucked.

As a man, one of the worst feelings you can have is that something is making you feel like LESS than a man. And this was one of those situations for me.

I'm kind of hard-headed sometimes. Maybe I like punishment more than others… or maybe I just like to beat my head against the wall longer than most.

In any event… I didn't give up.

Even though I was going through this experience over and over… of seeing a woman I wanted to meet… feeling fear and apprehension… not being able to get up the nerve to go talk to her… then thinking about it for hours (or days) after it happened… I just wouldn't let go.

I became determined to “crack the code” on this one.

Well, one of the big “ah ha!” moments I had was the SIMPLE act of learning that I WASN'T ALONE.

Just like it takes some “nerve” to approach a woman, it ALSO takes nerve to ADMIT when you're having challenges in life.

And one of the things I learned about my “fear of approaching women” was that instead of being “abnormal”, I was actually TYPICAL.

Imagine that.

Here I was thinking that I was emotionally retarded… and then I find out that MOST guys have this same issue… and it's just as intense for THEM as it is FOR ME!

Misery loves company… as they say. I guess that just learning I wasn't alone was enough to really encourage me.

But then I learned something even MORE important while I was learning how to overcome my own fears: I learned that MANY OTHER GUYS had figured out how to OVERCOME this “fear and shyness issue”… which led me to my next “ah ha!” moment:

IF THEY CAN DO IT, THEN SO CAN I.

And I'll tell you something right now: SO CAN YOU. And if you're open-minded and willing to do a little work on your part, then I'd like to show YOU how to do it…

MISTAKE #2: Expecting The Worst

I have spent a lot of years reading Psychology and “Self Help” books… and listening to audio programs… and going to seminars…

I've also spent a tremendous amount of time “testing out” the ideas that I've learned in these various books and programs.

As a result of all this “trying stuff out”, I've come to the realization that EXPECTATIONS play a very important part in RESULTS in life.

People who always expect bad things to happen… wind up having a lot of bad things happen to them.

People who only expect good things… wind up having a lot of good things happen.

Is this Voodoo? Am I talking about freaky New Age ideas that have no basis in reality of any kind?

No.

I've never tried Voodoo, by the way… but if you have, and it works, let me know. I'm always looking for new ideas that WORK!

OK, back to the point…

I believe that the REASON why expectations are so powerful has to do with the part of your mind that psychologists refer to as the “unconscious mind”. Some call it the “subconscious mind”.

This is the part of your mind that's “always on”… but it's working “behind the scenes”.

Have you ever been walking along… or driving… and you sensed danger out of the corner of your eye… and before you knew it, you INSTANTLY responded to avoid the danger?

Things like this happen to us all the time… but we don't really THINK about what's happening in moments like these.

The reality is that when we go through an experience like this, there are “miracles” happening inside of us.

In an instant, before we have time to “think” about what's happening, our entire mind and body have “taken over” and moved us out of the way of harm.

If you take just one aspect of one of these situations, the PHYSICAL MOVEMENTS, and examine it… you'll find that more is going on than “meets the eye”.

In order for your mind to perceive the danger, realize that it IS danger, figure out how to respond, then get the body to actually MOVE in away that gets you out of the path of danger… requires a MASSIVE amount of “computing power”.

Fortunately for you, all of the “computations” are being done outside of your “conscious” awareness.

But WHERE is it all being done? How is it that you “know” what to do… and you even DO it… before you “realize” what's going on?

It's all being done in this part of your mind that I'm talking about. It's all happening on the UNCONSCIOUS level.

Now, think about THIS for a minute:

Most men who have problems approaching women have one peculiar thing in common: They are all EXPECTING negative outcomes from the approach.

And they also have a SECOND thing in common: They don't CONSCIOUSLY REALIZE that all of their expectations are negative.

If you take time to ask, or you stop to think about how it happens for YOU, I think you'll realize that when you think about approaching a woman, your UNCONSCIOUS mind starts to INSTANTLY think about all the NEGATIVE things that might happen.

In fact, for most guys, this “negative expectation program” literally TAKES OVER… and they CAN'T EVEN IMAGINE a positive outcome.

This “negative expectation” thing is kind of a bitch, by the way.

It's painful… and it's not easy to change…

UNLESS, that is… you know HOW.

You've learned one of the most important pieces of the puzzle for changing: AWARENESS.

Now that you KNOW about it, you can start to AFFECT IT…

Now you need to learn some specific techniques to REVERSE this thinking… and begin to expect POSITIVE things to happen when you approach women…

MISTAKE #3: Making The WRONG First Impression

Another important think I learned about approaching women is actually something pretty OBVIOUS, when you think about it:

Attractive women are “approached”… one way or another… CONSTANTLY.

Women who are attractive are approached in a hundred different ways every day.

Sometimes it's a co-worker walking by her desk and smiling “too many times” a day…

Sometimes it's a guy holding a door open a little too long, just hoping to start a conversation…

Sometimes it's a random email from a guy she doesn't know telling her that he saw her picture online and thinks she's beautiful…

Sometimes it's a friend who keeps sharing his “feelings” for her…

And the more she's approached (both subtly and not so subtly), the more she develops a powerful “radar system” that alerts her to a man's intentions.

Most men don't realize that their lame attempts to get a woman's attention are HURTING them. They don't realize that the things they're doing are actually giving her a NEGATIVE impression… and making it so that it's almost IMPOSSIBLE for her to be attracted.

You've probably heard me say that “Women aren't attracted to Wussies!”.

It's true, by the way.

Let me ask you a couple of questions:

1) How many chances do you get to make a first impression on a woman?

2) What impression do most men give off when they approach a woman?

Right, the WUSSY impression.

And women have such a finely-tuned “Wussy Radar” system, that's I've actually given it a NAME… I call it WUSS-DAR.

If the impression you make on a woman is that you're a WUSSY, then it really doesn't MATTER if you've learned to overcome your fear of approaching her… because she's not going to feel any ATTRACTION for you ANYWAY.

You can train for ten years and become the fastest runner in the world… but if you start off the race running in the WRONG DIRECTION it's going to be pretty hard to WIN.

So remember: When you approach a woman, make sure the IMPRESSION she's getting is one that triggers ATTRACTION.

There are a lot of specific ways to create this impression, and I'll tell you some of them right now…

But REMEMBER: DON'T GIVE HER THE IMPRESSION THAT YOU'RE A WUSSY.

MISTAKE #4: Seeking Her Approval Or Acceptance

If I could go around the world, and take ALL of the situations that happened today where a man approached a woman that he was interested in dating… and then summarize and “condense” them into ONE “scene”, it would have an easy-to-recognize theme…

It would be a man who's nervous and shy… who is trying to FIRST get the woman to LIKE AND ACCEPT HIM.

For most guys, they have it in their mind that they need to get what psychologists call “approval”.

They think that the most important thing is that she LIKE him.

Here's what it looks like to the woman…

It's like a guy is walking up with a big sign on his forehead that reads: “I want you to think that I'm a nice, sweet, caring, considerate man… and I would do almost anything to make you like and accept me”.

And guess what?

IT DOESN'T WORK.

It never works.

Well, let me correct myself…

You will never win the lottery.

You MIGHT actually win the lottery… but you probably won't.

And you MIGHT get a woman to feel attracted to her by working to get her attention and approval…

But you probably won't.

I think I've made my point.

Using the “kiss her ass and hope she likes me” strategy is a loser. It does not trigger attraction. It never will.

Hugh Hefner and Brad Pitt will probably write to me to disagree… and then I'll stand corrected.

But for regular guys like you and me, it ain't gonna happen.

ATTRACTION is triggered by a TOTALLY DIFFERENT message.

It's created by a man who knows how to TRIGGER the attraction when he approaches… not by the man who HOPES it will happen if he's a NICE, SWEET, WONDERFUL GUY.

In short, DON'T SEEK HER APPROVAL OR ACCEPTANCE.

She'll smell the Inner Wuss coming out, and she'll shut you down faster than you can say “I touch myself”.

MISTAKE #5: Thinking You Need To Be
“Original And Creative”

Answer this question:

When you see an attractive woman that you'd like to meet… and you start thinking about how to approach her and start a conversation… what's the FIRST thing you think of to SAY to her?

As you know, it can be TORTURE to try to come up with what to say.

This torture, of course, is SELF-INFLICTED.

And there's a common “theme” at the root of this “self torture”.

This theme is that when we see a woman that we'd like to meet, we tend to think to ourselves, “I need to come up with something ORIGINAL and CREATIVE to say to her”.

Why do we do this?

Because we DON'T want to come across as insincere… or even CHEESY.

So we look at her… try to notice something about her… maybe try to come up with some kind of original compliment… or creative humor.

Here's the problem:

That attractive woman has men looking at her ALL DAY… EVERY DAY.

And they're all thinking the SAME THING.

From HER perspective, every guy is walking up to her and saying one of the SAME FEW THINGS.

The irony is that in our desire and attempt to be ORIGINAL…we wind up saying essentially the SAME THING as the last hundred guys…

And TO HER, it comes across in EXACTLY THE WRONG WAY.

The “original, sincere, real” compliment we give her is just like the last bazillion she got…

And you just become one more “link” in the “mental sausage chain” in her mind.

Really.

So what's the solution?

The solution is to LEARN what to say when you start a conversation with women. Learn how the PROS do it… so you can get an UNDERSTANDING of what actually WORKS.

Only after you've learned from several experts… and then used their methods in the REAL WORLD… should you try to be “creative and original”.

MISTAKE #6: Not Having An ARSENAL
Of Techniques “At The Ready”

You may have noticed that the mistakes I've been talking about have little or nothing to do with “pick up lines” and “techniques”.

Why is this?

It's pretty simple, really…

If you have all these other issues handled, then good “pick up lines” and other techniques are like GUNPOWDER. They're INCREDIBLY powerful.

If you DON'T have these other issues handled, the best techniques in the world can't help you.

So, STEP ONE is to get these other issues handled.

Step TWO is to then learn the very best opening lines and other techniques… so you have “proven systems” for approaching women and starting conversations in ANY situation.

Until now, there's been nowhere to go for the solutions to ANY of these problems.

Now you have to find the way....good luck

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1) Casual: Looks much easier written down than when staring at the next Mrs. YOU. But, if you come on too strong to her at first, she’s going to get frightened and defend herself. To start the conversation, be as casual as possible by asking her a simple question about your environment. Also, keep your body language as neutral as possible by not turning and facing her or leaning in to her. She is much more likely to receive your approach if you can prevent the words “something is up here, I can just feel it!!” from crossing her mind. Feel free to also look away as you chat with her. Again, you are reinforcing the casual-ness of the interaction.

2) Playful: Lots of guys become Mr. Cocky when they approach women, which is a defense mechanism. Drop the cockiness, and show her your confident side by being playful. This is also called - FLIRTING - and is a MUST skill for guys who want to enhance their dating lives. You want to simply joke around, but stay away from teasing her - you don’t know her well enough for that yet. Instead, point out the humor in your surroundings, or, even better, about yourself. The more self-effacing here the better. Let her know you don’t take yourself too seriously. If you can master this, women will trust you. If women trust you, they will want to be around you. See where this leads?

3) Personal: Last, but not least, at some point you have to let her know a little bit about you. Instead of relying on the standard diet of questions (”where are you from?”, “what is your sign?”), answer these questions for her in the form of statements. Just drop them into your conversation: “Your sweater reminds me of my sister, though we are from the south, it gets cold around November. She used to wear something similar at Thanksgiving.” In that statement alone, I reveal three facts about my life: I am from the south, I have a sister, and we gather at Thanksgiving. Suddenly, you are no longer a guy she just met at the café, but someone she is “getting to know”. There is a HUGE difference.

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-how to meet and date beautiful girls in college
-Valentine dating advice
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Dating Tips Online: How to Approach a Woman and get phone number part 3

Dating Tips Online: How to Approach a Woman and get phone number

How to Ask a Girl for a Date

It's the most intimidating question a guy can ask a woman, and one that I get asked about regularly. It feels like such a risky proposition, putting yourself out there for a woman's approval (or rejection.)

This has to be one of the questions I hear most frequently from guys.

Why?

It's the most intimidating question a guy can ask a woman, and one that I get asked about regularly. It feels like such a risky proposition, putting yourself out there for a woman's approval (or rejection.)

The answer to the riddle is this: STOP asking women out!

First of all, you're starting a program in a woman's head that says: "He's romantically interested in me. That means dates, and awkward kisses, and possibly sex, and then a breakup like the last one. I better not."

Second, by asking her out, you make a woman need to figure out if she's attracted to you the moment you ask the question. She is presented with an opportunity which requires her to figure out her interest level in YOU.

You see, a woman doesn't want to lead a man on, but she also rarely knows right away if there's romantic interest. So she'll say yes just to test you out. It's like her first drive of a new car. She doesn't want to be obligated to buy right off the bat. If you push her for an answer right away (which is how asking her out comes across to her) she'll say No, even if she isn't sure yet.

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Dating Tips Online: How to Approach a Woman and get phone number II

Dating Tips Online: How to Approach a Woman and get her phone number successfully

How to approach women is a question I often encounter.

In order to approach women, you will have to your life and head together. You will have to be totally confident and comfortable with your current life-style.

To approach beautiful women there are no perfect pick-up lines. I don’t like the connation associated with pick-up lines. How can you want to pick-up a woman you have not spoken to? She might be beautiful and have a great body, but trust me; if she is not beautiful on the inside you will be sick of her in five minutes.

To approach women the correct mindset to have is, “I wonder if she is my type?” So instead of having an anxiety-induced pick-up mindset, you are simply qualifying this woman as a person. Is she someone worth getting to know? Is she funny? Is she a great conversationalist? This is the frame of mind you should adopt when meeting women. You should be the choosy in your interactions with women. Don’t settle for a woman who does not add value to your current life.

Will Women Approach Me?

If you use a pick-up when a women approaches, you probably just shot yourself in the leg. You are much better off making a situational comment. If you have a sense of humor, use your imagination and add some comedy to the situation.

I am here to tell you that it really does not matter what you say when you approach women. Communication experts tell us most of communication, up to 93% is non-verbal. So in human communication, only 7% of communication is the words you use. The other 93% of communication is made up of body language, gestures and vocal tone.

Always make eye contact during your initial contact. You must give these women 100% of your attention. So learn to be an active listener. Use what she says to open up new threads of conversation.

Here are some conversation starters to help you approach women:

Book store – If she is looking at book. You best buy my book it is fabulous.

Coffee shop – You know where I can get some cotton candy around here?

Super Market – Do you know how to pick the perfect kumquat?

Bar/Lounge – I like this place have you been here before? What other places you enjoy going to?

Most of these openers are silly. I would deliver them with a smirk.

You should always be ready to strike up a conversation with women. You daily errands and work life bring you in contact with many people. If you have to, come up with some default conversation starters you can use in any situation.

I would recommend you check out some of Leil Lowndes books. She will help you gain the confidence you need, to approach beautiful women everywhere. She is an excellent author and speaker on starting conversations, romantic encounters, and she gives tips on how to approach women. This is a great book which ties into what we were speaking about, How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships.

I want to drive home the fact it does not matter what you say, but how you say it. Attitude is everything! Good luck in your quest to approach women.

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Dating Tips Online: How to Approach a Woman and get her phone number successfully

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QUESTION:

At lunch yesterday I saw this really great looking classy girl. She was obviously having lunch with some co-workers, as was I. We made eye contact a few times and exchanged smiles. How does one go about approaching her? If she "separated from the pack" I could have maybe done something. Is this a lost cause for future encounters of this type?

CARLOS ANSWERS:

Ah, the old "get her away from the pack" question. This is probably one of the most common dilemmas for guys, and it's very discouraging because of the supposed risk of embarrassment.

No, it is never a lost cause. Remember, every situation can be handled if you stop and plan in advance. We're human beings and problem solvers.

In the situation you were found yourself, this gal gave you some definite I.O.I.s (Indications Of Interest). When you make eye contact and get a smile, you should move in immediately.

You're probably wondering, "But don't I need to wait until I get a convenient break from the herd?"

* The "convenient" break will probably never happen. Don't wait for circumstances; make them.

* If you wait, you'll end up lowering her interest, because you won't look confident as you hang around skulking and waiting for your ideal window of opportunity. The Serengeti is full of tigers that will pounce on their prey if you won't. The longer you wait, the more likely you'll starve in the singles' jungle. (And the faster she thinks: "Wimp.")

* If you wait, your inner LoserBoy will start discouraging you. Loserboy is that voice in your head that undermines your success so you never have to risk losing - or winning. The two of you can sit at home watching re-runs of "The X-files" and drinking old beer. He'll turn you into a chicken by whispering disempowering messages to you, like "Nah, she's probably already taken," or "She just wants to eat her lunch, not meet a possibly interesting guy." Don't give Loserboy the chance to start talking.

So, how do you introduce yourself without feeling like an intrusive dork?

If the group she's in has more than one female in it, your best option is always to use a wingman (a friend who can help break the ice for you.) Coach one of your friends in advance and have them ready to fly intercept for you.

Here's a low-risk option: Have the waiter bring over a note saying something like: "Hey, I know you're with friends, but if you'd like to make another friend, step away for a second. (Don't make me come over and start singing to you.)"

Unless she's terminally shy, she will more than likely step away. No need to get clever with your introduction when she comes over. Here's one that works for me: "I don't normally interrupt people during lunch, but I just had to give you the pleasure of meeting me." (Give her a playful smile.) "What's your name?"

Wait for her to ask you for your name, as this is a key indicator as to whether she's interested in you.

Remember that a teasing and cocky attitude is necessary because it helps communicate your value as an Alpha Man. You need to communicate your confidence and independent posture to her so that she understands you're a real man, not a wimp that will bore her after the first date. Women want men with a sexual charge about them, and are turned off by "nice guys" who can't muster the courage to go after what they want.

End the tease with a smile to show her you're just kidding around. If she gets indignant or weird, you excuse yourself and move on, because you've just discovered that she's probably insecure and bitchy. But more often than not, you'll now find yourself in a conversation with a hot woman. Congratulations!

End it quickly with the "Well, I have to get back to my friends. It was nice talking to you." Then you hand her a pen and tell her to write down her email or phone number. Don't ask her - tell her, and she'll give it to you.

Remember, guys: If she's interested, she doesn't care how you introduce yourself, just as long as you do.

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