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Saturday, March 29, 2008

Dating Advice and Tips: How to plan a great date with simple steps.

Dating Advice and Tips: How to plan a great date with simple steps. And possibly leads to intimacy.

Dinner Date is for Newbie who knows nothing about seduction. Cooking at your place is money. Do what you please afterward.

It’s not enough to know that a dinner date is usually “bad.” It’s important that you know why things work or don’t work, so you can make the material your own. So here are some of the basic, emotional, reasons why we advise new guys generally to avoid dinner dates:

* She’s been to dozens of these already in her life. It’s not fresh and exciting and it’s harder for you to stand out.
* You show from the beginning that you are not especially creative or challenging to her.
* The first-date dinner date is a traditional part of the “courtship” ritual. Courtship is bad. You are chasing her; she is screening you. She is evaluating whether you’d be a good boyfriend. I call this kind of approach “dating and waiting.”
* She has lots of experience going for dinner with a man and not giving him more than a kiss.
* Dinner dates, especially if you’re new to dating science and don’t know her that well, are actually kind of hard. You are responsible for nearly all of the entertainment, and awkwardness is death. Compare this to going to a comedy club, where the environment helps you.

Notice that I said “emotional reasons” above. The emotional side is only part of it. To begin a sexual relationship with a woman (which is your goal whether you want her as a girlfriend or as a one-night stand) you need for her to be ready Emotionally, Physically, and Logistically. So consider:

* Physically: At most restaurants, it is hard or awkward for you to be touching each other, or starting what I call the “physical conversation.” You’re often sitting across from each other, with a table as a barrier. Even starting the physical conversation by touching her arm casually as you say something is awkward over a dinner table. You’re usually just two talking heads.

* Logistically: You’re at a restaurant. Great. She’s not at your house, and she’s used to the invitation to a man’s house after the dinner date and knows exactly what that means. It’s a state break. (If you don’t know what a state break is and how the end-game – seducing a woman – is dependent on properly navigating past potential state break. It explains state breaks in detail, gives three tools to navigate past them, and then a ton of examples of how these tools get used in real-life situations.) It’s not an insurmountable problem, but it’s a potential state break you don’t need, especially when you’re just starting out.

Now, making dinner at your place is a little different. It’s slightly more original. You have more control over the environment (lighting, music, etc.). You are in private, in a place where the physical conversation can develop. You show her that you are a good cook, which is attractive. And it gives her a chance to see where you live, which, if you’ve set things up correctly, should reinforce her attraction to you and help her get to know you better. Leave a few objects around that are conversation starters or will lead her to reinforce her attraction to you. I used to travel a lot and take a lot of photographs, so I blew some of them up and put them on my wall. Women ask about them all the time, and it gives me a chance to tell funny stories from my trips and to embed a lot of cool stuff about my old career as a photographer.

However, I still wouldn’t recommend it as a first date in this case. You may suffer from congruence issues. And logistically, it’s not as good of a situation as it might seem.
by Savoy

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