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Tuesday, March 25, 2008

Rejection, 4 big reason why women reject men.

Rejection, 4 big reason why women reject men.

I've found that there are a few main reasons
why women actually DO reject men (by the way, it's
VERY rare that I actually get "rejected"
anymore... it's probably happened to me once in
the last 100 times I've started a conversation
with a woman... because I don't do dumb-ass things
anymore). credited (David De Angelo)

Here are the main ones:

1. The guy isn't paying attention, and he does
something stupid to begin with.

Some guys think it's appropriate to walk up to
a woman, put their arm around her, and say, "Hey
baby, you sure do look hot tonight".

Some guys don't see anything wrong with
following a woman around all night, staring at her
constantly, then walking over with a nervous,
sweaty-palmed, stalkerish look and saying, "You
remind me of my sister".

These are bad ideas.

2. The guy doesn't stop when he should.

If two women are sitting alone at a table in
the corner, and one of them is obviously upset,
and you walk over to them and say, "Hi, can I buy
you a drink?"... and the upset one looks at you
and says, "No thanks, we're in the middle of a
conversation" (then looks away from you back at
her friend)... and you say, "Aw, cummon, have a
drink. You need to lighten up and have some
fun"... and she looks back at you and says firmly,
"We're busy"... and you say, "What, are you in a
bad mood or something? I'm just trying to buy you
a drink"... and she says, "We don't want a
drink"... and you say, "Well maybe your friend
does"... and the friend says, "No, I don't want
one either"...

OK, hopefully you get it.

If you ever do something like this, you are a
dumb ass, and you deserve to be slapped and have
47 drinks thrown in your lap.

3. Making a woman nervous with your body
language.

If you start talking to a woman, but your
posture is weak and slumped, your eyes are darting
around but not meeting hers, and you're wearing an
unbuttoned flannel shirt with one of the tails
tucked in, you're probably not going to get a
favorable response.

If you creep a woman out, things aren't going
to work for you.

4. Not understanding a woman's body language and
other communication.

When you start talking to a woman, she will let
you know within a very short time if she's
receptive to talking to you.

If you've been reading too many books that say
"A woman will signal her availability and interest
by flipping her hair, licking her lips, and
cocking her head coyly at you", then get over it.

This stuff happens to Brat Pitt, not to YOU.

And if it DOES happen to you, then skip this
part.

When you first start talking to a woman she's
either going to keep talking to you in an open,
comfortable way or she's not.

She's either going to act like things are cool
or she's going to act like they're not.

This is an amazing thought, but women get
nervous too. They will often stop talking just
because they can't think of anything to say, etc.

But you need to pay attention.

Experience is the best teacher here.

My simple point is that MOST GUYS CAUSE
REJECTION by what they're doing. They aren't
paying attention, or they're doing things that are
offensive.

If you just avoid a few major mistakes, learn
how to start conversations with women, and do a
few simple things RIGHT, you'll all but totally
avoid "rejection" from the women you approach.

HOW TO OVERCOME FEAR OF REJECTION

The REAL obstacle here is the FEAR.

As I mentioned, FEAR of rejection, or IMAGINING
rejection when you should be imagining success,
leads to walking away.

You miss 100% of the shots you don't take.

Ironically, I've found that the best way to
overcome my own fear of rejection was to see that
it wasn't going to actually happen.

The more times I approached women and started
conversations and the more I saw that women
usually responded positively, the less I imagined
things going wrong.

This led to a positive feedback loop of me
wanting to approach more women and have more
success.

Here are a few ideas for overcoming your own
FEAR of rejection:

1) Go out to a bar, and watch men approaching
women.

Take a Saturday night, and just go out alone.
Find a seat at the bar where things are busy, and
just watch.

Make sure you visit a place that is REALLY
busy, so you can see a lot of people interacting.

Now, pay attention.

You'll begin to pick out the guys who are
approaching a lot of women, asking them to dance,
buying them drinks, etc. Watch what happens.

You'll be able to see for yourself that most of
the time, even if the woman isn't interested,
nothing bad happens.

You'll also see that when a guy tries to grab a
woman who's walking by, makes a crude sexual
comment, or just keeps talking when a woman isn't
interested, that the woman's feelings might
escalate and she'll respond negatively.

You can watch what works and what doesn't right
in front of your own eyes.

This will start to reprogram your mind that
women don't usually "reject" men, even in the most
intense situations where they're being approached
all night.

2) Start small.

If you have to, start by talking to women who
are PAID to talk to you.

Go to a mall (one of my favorites).

Stores in malls hire attractive young women.

Walk into every store, and start conversations.

Practice making eye contact.

Come up with a few jokes that you can use in
any situation ("So, do you own this store?
Perfect, then you won't care if I just take some
things...")

Ask the salesgirls to smell your new cologne
(the one you sprayed on your wrist next door) and
give you her opinion.

The more you do this, the more you'll get used
to starting conversations with women you don't
know, and having comfortable conversations.

3) Choose one default thing for each situation.

It amazes me that guys don't think ahead.

They don't plan what they're going to do.

As the old saying goes "By failing to plan, you
plan to fail".

You really need to figure out a DEFAULT thing
you can do to start a conversation with any woman,
anywhere, anytime.

Once you come up with your idea, mentally
rehearse it until you could do it in any
situation.

Then get out and do it.