Dating advice and tips: Confidence is men's key to attract and seduce beautiful women.
Five secret rules that will boost your success with hot and beautiful women by Carlos Xuma
The Five Secrets of Confidence that create powerful magnetic personality to attract Women...
When women don't respond to us as attractive and masculine men, we feel like a chair has been kicked out from under our confidence. It's a real blow to our ego, and eventually it becomes much more important to avoid that kind of pain at all costs.
Have you ever been talking about this with a woman (a woman you think would have good information on this topic), but all she has to tell you is, "Be confident!"
Boy, that's helpful. She might as well say, "Just DO IT!"
I'm here to tell you that when someone says "Be confident" to you as advice for attracting women, they haven't got a clue how to actually DO IT. It's a cop-out, and it's also a bunch of CRAP.
Or sometimes they would say something like this: "Don't worry... the right person will come along for you when you're ready."
I had women tell me this and I wanted to scream "Well, I'm ready NOW!"
This is another one of those harmful bits of advice that says you have to wait for fate or destiny - or luck - to put a woman in your life. I don't know about you, but I don't buy that one at all. And it's a good thing I didn't.
No matter what level of confidence I was at, I still wanted a woman in my life, and I wasn't willing to wait around until I got the confidence before I could have the women.
Well, let me tell you that this is one of the best secrets of having a great sex life and confidence....
SECRET #1: "The Unknown Secret of How Women Sense Your Overall CONFIDENCE Level, and the Secret Ingredient to Attracting Women That Even 'Pickup Artists' Don't Know About or Understand..."
You don't have to go into years of work on your self-esteem, or go see a therapist, or any other deep "inner child" work to improve your self-confidence and your success rate with women.
In fact, what I found out purely by mistake was that the more you are actively working on your own life - pursuing your passions - the more women will be interested in what you have to offer.
Here's a little technique you can use in your next conversation with a woman, and it's guaranteed to get her more interested in you than any of the small talk you've been using so far. I'll explain why it works in a minute, but be sure to use this:
Think for a minute about your most passionate hobby, talent, or part of your life. (It can be anything - except women.)
Think about how it makes you feel to be actively engaged in doing that activity.
How confident do you feel? How ALIVE do you feel?
When you imagine the experience of doing that activity, do you feel more energized and excited?
Great...
Now the next time you're out talking to a woman, make it a point to bring up this passion of yours in conversation. Related to her what it is, and how it makes you feel when you're doing it.
Here's an example: I love to play the guitar. I have a few playlists on my computer with songs I like to play along with, and I crank up the amp and just rock out to some of my favorite tracks. There's nothing like that feeling of losing yourself in the music, feeling the strings vibrate under my fingers, and just being carried away by the song.
When you talk with women, use those sensory words (like I did with "vibrate," "crank," "losing yourself," etc.) as much as you can when you describe your own passions.
You'll even find your own energy level rising naturally and your excitement becoming contagious.
Every time I've used this with women, they are always much more interested and attracted to me after I talk about the guitar.
For one, it's about music and being creative. For another, I'm passionate about it and I get excited talking about it. And when I use all that sensory imagery, it hypnotizes her into experiencing it with me.
Remember one thing: Passions are the best topic of conversation because they energize you and demonstrate your level of ambition.
(I'll tell you more about how to discover these passions in a minute...)
SECRET #2: "The Secret Reason A Woman Uses The 'LET'S JUST BE FRIENDS' Excuse - And Why Women Go After the 'Jerks'..."
You don't want to be the "Nice Guy" or the "Jerk" when it comes to attracting women.
You want to be an ALPHA MAN.
The women that tell you they "just want to be friends," or that they're "not ready for a relationship" seem to have no problem sleeping with the bad-boy who is about as reliable as a weather report for next week. Funny, huh?
Or not-so-funny, I should say.
The reason that women say they want to "be friends" with you, or you're a "nice guy" is that they're really trying to say something else...
What a woman really means is this: "You aren't exciting me enough to be someone I can think about sexually. But I can't say that because if I mention sex, that might give you the impression I'm slutty, and I can't do that."
On the surface, that may seem a bit complicated, but it's not.
Keep in mind that women are brought up to maintain their social image at all cost. Women actually enjoy sex at least as much if not MORE than men do, but they can't say this or they would seem "slutty."
So when a woman uses this "I want to be friends" excuse, she's really just trying to tell you in the safest way possible that you're not pushing her "attraction buttons" with the way you're talking and behaving with her.
By being "nice," you're also being "safe."
We all know these guys who are just friends of the women, but - let's be blunt - NEVER get laid. These are the guys, who buy women gifts and flowers, compliment them too often and have a hard time saying "No" to women. (This was also me, by the way, before I figured out what the essential attraction qualities really are...)
"The Nice Guy" is the personality you adopt when you hope that you can prove how good you are for a woman. You start to give her things, compliment her, and you adopt a posture of extreme weakness in the process. When you work this hard for approval, you will almost always turn a woman off.
On the other hand, you don't have to be a Jerk, either. In fact, being a Nice Guy OR the Jerk is being fake. You need to be the man you already are to really impress her. But you need to bring out the best parts of you to attract women.
You simply need turn your mind around to learn how to present yourself as a dominant and powerful MAN. And that is when women will start to try to be the "Nice Woman" for you!
IMPORTANT NOTE: Over 90% of guys have problems when it comes to their inner game and self-confidence (and I'm being conservative). What I'm offering you here is the unique chance - to make YOU in the top 10% of self-confident guys that WOMEN WANT!
Most guys never get to be an Alpha Male (also known as an Alpha Man). This is the kind of guy you see having the most fun, hanging out with the hottest women.
The Alpha Male is the leader of the pack. He gets women and he gets what he wants because he's a dominant and respected man, with strong masculine self-confidence.
The Alpha Man is NOT the aggressive guy who's pushing everyone around and being an arrogant jerk. You see, a "jerk" is really a guy who has taken all the "aloof" behaviors WAY too far. Alpha Men understand the balance and don't have to use brawn or aggro behavior; now we have to use our brains.
An Alpha Man is also not a "jerk" or a pushy, testosterone-driven meat-head.
You're CONFIDENT and secure of your value, and because of this you can show more of your true self to women without fear. You can be more GENUINE.
You don't need to try to buy a woman's affections, or compliment your way into her heart (which doesn't work, as I'm sure you now know.)
The Alpha Man is also socially intelligent - knowing how to handle most situations with finesse and confident masculine leadership.
 Did you know that...
- Impatience is your #1 killer of seductions - and opportunity in your life?
- By talking like an Alpha Man you communicate your Alpha Status on a primitive level that interests women?
- By increasing your social circle you can socialize and network to meet more women?
- You can use YOUR OWN emotional intelligence to unlock your hidden power with women?
- You should use organic problem solving to increase your ability to solve problems "on-the-fly" in ANY situation?
- By utilizing the power of PASSION in your life you can attract anyone and get them to like you?
- There are several specific "Nice Guy" behaviors you must get rid of to attract women...?
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Haven't you always wondered what it is that certain men GREAT men had that make them so successful in life, how they manage to rise to the top? How they achieve such great things, and always attract women - beautiful women to come along for the ride?
You've probably even heard and understood that the men who get the most out of life get the highest quality women, get the most money, get the most success, get better jobs, get more sex and satisfaction overall than those men who are more like, say, the clerk at the convenience store, or the waiter at Denny's.
These men have a certain dominance about them. Yes, they are assertive - even aggressive at times, but it's much more than that.
These men have some special inner quality that allows them to be more confident, persistent, and generally get whatever they go after. They meet single women (the highest quality), attract women, and are able to keep them interested and sexually attracted on a deep and primal level.
You can LEARN how to be one of these men.
"What Women REALLY Want - and Why She Will Stay With You For As Long As You Want - Or Leave Without Hesitating..."
Think about it... each of us desires what the other gender has.
Women want men who are MEN. (And men want women who don't act like men.) But today's society has us acting like anything but what we should be to be authentically attractive to the opposite sex.
REMEMBER THIS: There is nothing more unattractive to a woman than a man who isn't masculine.
The unfortunate thing is that most of us guys were never given a "masculine attraction" class in high school. That's another of the many reasons I want to tell you about how you can develop your inner Alpha Man.
Let's get started by destroying one of the harmful myths out there...
MYTH: You need to be a woman's "friend" before you can be her lover...
Every romantic involvement with a woman must begin with a passionate seduction in order to develop into anything further. You cannot start out as friends and hope to turn it into romance later on. ("Friends first" is a complete fallacy.)
Seduction isn't bad or wrong! It's absolutely necessary.
Picture this scene: A guy is talking with a beautiful woman in a bar. She's laughing away at his jokes, flipping her hair back, and touching his arm as if she's known him forever, but you know she's only just met him. The worst part is that he's not even good looking! And his suit looks like he just re-used his couch fabric. Eventually, she leaves with him, hand in hand.
What could this guy possibly have or know that allows him to be brave enough to jump in and attract beautiful women successfully?
SECRET #3: "To be successful with women and project an "Alpha Aura," you must have what I call the Critical Success Factors (the "Three S's") with women..."
Critical Success Factors - "The Three S's"
- Self-confidence is the outer projection of your self-esteem and how you feel about yourself. It reflects your ability to take control of a situation, as well as how much you like yourself as a person. A woman can read how confident you are before you open your mouth.
- Sense of humor is your ability to make her laugh. Laughing lowers her resistance to you, as well as creating a bond and a connection. You don't have to be a comedian, but you do have to be lighthearted and playful.
- Self-control is the ability to act when it's appropriate, and to do nothing when you need to show restraint. It's your coolness and calmness, even when everything around you is going crazy. A woman will test your self-control at every step of the way.
These traits combined create a powerful communication style that will put you over the top with any woman you desire. Good looks are not - repeat - NOT necessary.
(But you do have to take care of your appearance, because that is what she looks at to figure out if you'll be able to take care of her. You should be well-groomed and nicely dressed at a minimum.) |
Women Do Not Choose The Men They Are Attracted To, Any More Than You Choose The Women That You Want.
A man's attractiveness lies on a subtle layer of communication, totally unrelated to your appearance. Once you know the principles of how to communicate with women as an Alpha Man, you can use this knowledge whenever you want to get a woman interested in you.
Women WANT to be seduced by men. But only by a man who initiates and takes control in the right way.
SECRET #4: "The 4 Secret Ingredients Of Attraction And What Women Are REALY Looking For In A Man..."
I want to tell you what women are most attracted to. These are what I call the Attraction Factors - or what I call "Core Attractors" for women, and they work with EVERY woman. - Prosperity (His money, possessions, gifts)
- Power, Social Status, & Value (Fame, authority, hard-to-get, social influence)
- Appearance (Including his height, build, and looks)
- Character (Confidence, lifestyle, sense of humor, romantic creativity, intelligence, personality, etc.)
You can't change any of these significantly except for the last one: Character.
You can cultivate this one single attribute and make up for (and override) your lack of ANY of the other 3. (Some people will try to teach you that the "social value" indicator is the most important one to women, but it's NOWHERE near as important as your character and lifestyle are.)
The good news is that the last one is the one that I also found the easiest to make significant improvements and changes in a short period of time. In fact, women actually sense your character from you FIRST, and they make all their judgments about you based on it.
And if you only have one of the other core attractors WITHOUT this, you will not have the same level of success.
SECRET #5: "In Order To Escalate With a Woman to Create a Sexual Connection, You Must Learn How to 'Flip The Switch' in Her Mind..."
Another myth many guys believe is that in order to be successful in attracting a woman, or taking things to a sexual level with her, that you need to establish a commitment with her.
In other words, to get physical with her, she will expect to be your girlfriend, or you must establish a long-term relationship.
This is not true.
I'm going to tell you what the hidden need is that women actually have in a moment, but I need to tell you about something you must do in your own head to "reboot" your brain and thinking to win this game.
"The first thing you need to do to regain your Alpha Power is..."
... to 'Flip the Switch.'"
What I mean by this is that you must learn how to shift your perception from what it is you want to GET from your interactions with women, and start thinking from HER perspective.
No, I don't mean you have to put on "chick goggles" or anything like that. What I'm talking about is remembering that every woman is tuned in to W.I.I.F.M. It's the radio station that we are ALL tuned into: What's In It For Me?
This is the question you must be answering with your attitude and your first impression with a woman when you approach her.
She isn't looking at you as a man - she's looking at you as a choice of SITUATION. You aren't just a guy approaching her, you are a set of expectations, a job, a set of hobbies, a family, and all the baggage that comes with you.
Now do you understand why women are so hesitant and skeptical of men? Why they test us all the time?
For a woman to be interested, you have to be broadcasting the right programming for her WIIFM.
So when you Flip The Switch, you are simply thinking about what YOU would want to hear if you were trying to figure out if a person was being sincere or not. How would they sound? What would they say?
What makes the information that I want to teach you different is that I learned and understood that the source of all success with women, and the secret ingredient to attracting women - was all locked up in just one core principle: CONFIDENCE.
Once a man found his confidence, everything else came from there... success approaching and dating women, success in handling life's challenges, handling your money and building your wealth and prosperity...
And EVERY guy can use my principles - my SECRETS - of being an Alpha Man ... all with their REAL personalities.
I hunted down all the proven techniques and methods for building self-confidence and self-esteem that I could find. I tried them all out.
What I came up with was a tried and true method of increasing your confidence with women.
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peace!
