4 BIG mistakes men always make with women: dating tips for men.

4 BIG mistakes men always make with women: dating tips for men.

Well, you have to remember that one of the key differences between
men and women is how we view plans. Guys think that plans are all
firm and important - and they get really irritated when it looks
like someone is just ignoring those plans.

Women, on the other hand, don't place as much stock in plans. They
are very much rooted in the present moment and going along with
whatever will give them the highest Fun Payback Ratio. (Remember
this concept - it's crucial.)

To a woman, not following through on a plan is not what she's
focused on. She's focused on what she IS doing right now that give
her a lift or a positive experience. Don't misinterpret flighty
focus for malicious intent.

You're also planning too much. You've gone into the realm of TRYING
to make everything work rather than just letting your natural Alpha
Habits take over.

You're placing way too much emphasis on figuring out what she's
thinking, and what it all means.

It means NOTHING.

You must simply act from a place of strength and belief in your own
reality and your own world.

Without this calm sureness in your own skin, none of that other
stuff matters. When you're busy in your own life because you have
so many options of your own, you don't even NOTICE these small
slights. You're just off to the next cool thing that you've got
going on in your life.

Remember, there must always be a hundred other cool things you
could be doing in any given moment OTHER than chasing some woman.

You see, when you are all wrapped up in trying to manipulate or
engineer a certain RESULT in your social interactions, you miss the
point.

Here are the Mistakes that you can fix and get better results:

MISTAKE 1) Instant messaging her to "check-in" on your lunch date.

Bad. Don't do that. If she has to cancel, it's HER job to tell you
so that you can discover the quality of her character. "Sure, no
problem," is a wuss reply. You should have been teasing her and
busting her balls.

Don't be so easygoing. Be fun and playful, ALWAYS, but don't say
"no problem" if it is in fact a problem. There's a specific way
that the Alpha Man busts on women that do this so that she feels
tension again, and you don't look like a wuss.

MISTAKE 2) Waiting on a woman's call.

This places far too much emphasis on her as a result. You handed
all your power over to her by giving HER the control. No matter
what a woman says, she doesn't want that control!

YOU must be the one to lead things. You should have just told her
you can't wait around for her and you'll just go with 'someone
else.' Not with a whiney, pissy tone, but very matter-of-factly.

You DO have someone else, don't you? If not, you didn't read the
"D.O.W." chapter in The Dating Black Book. Go back and re-read that
and you'll get it.

MISTAKE 3) Assuming that once a woman is interested in you, she
will STAY interested in you.

Not so. Her emotions and attraction will ebb and flow. You must
always assume you're starting from ground level with her.

MISTAKE 4) Getting irritated about her behavior.

You misinterpreted that when she was hanging with her girlfriends,
she was trying to hurt your feelings, or even considering you at all.

Women FLAKE. That's life.

Women will do this to you for the REST of your LIFE. Start getting
used to it now. The one thing that will curb this kind of behavior
is acting like a stronger male role model. (Otherwise known as an
ALPHA MAN.)

You should have walked right over and started chatting up her
friend, in a happy, couldn't-give-a-shit attitude. Oh, and you
should have done this with your 'someone else' that you went to
lunch with. You know, your "alternative..."

Being an Alpha Man is more than knowing one strategy that fits-all.
(There's no such thing.) It's not black and white. It's a lot of
gray, but it's gray that you can learn easily.

When you ask how to act or what to say, this has to come from the
HEART, or she'll see right through your act. The simple answer is
that you must act with confidence and power. You act like YOU, but
the strong, confident version of YOU.

The Secrets of the Alpha Man program is THE map to finding yours. How to be sexual and turn her on.

Carlos Xuma
Dating Advice for Men